If you want something from someone else, or more importantly, from yourself, then you have to actually ask for it.  Otherwise you can’t move forward.

What would it be like for you to ask someone significant in your life exactly what you want from them?  Spouse, partner, parent, child, client, prospect, friend, neighbor. Ask them! And when you ask them, is it to persuade them, or to serve them?  Come and listen to the different perspectives on this simple and brilliant axiom inspired from the mouth of a five year old.

In the end, it's about giving yourself permission to say no to something and yes to yourself instead.