Here’s the idea behind this lesson: When it comes to dealing with the bully, see what you can get away with.

Whatever it is you’d do if you knew you’d win no matter what..do that!

Test and find out what you can get away with around people. You tell them you’re somewhat okay with losing them, or losing out in the situation.

When you’re willing to risk, you’re willing to lose, but remember people don’t take risks unless they think they’re more likely to win.

So what you really say in taking calculated risks is: I’m probably going to win.

In other words: I’m betting on me. I’m a winner. I have good judgment. The outcome means less than the attitude.

This winner’s attitude inspires others.

People love to see someone who doesn’t care and isn’t stressed. A rarity.

It may seem a little like giving up to accept risk, but as soon as you do it, you’ll feel like a winner.

The attitude is worth more than the outcome.

Make no mistake, you will lose some of the time, but by that point you won’t care.

Because the feeling of laughing failure in the face is better than any win.

Here’s how to practice and get good, so you can risk it for the biscuit:

To give yourself the illusion you cannot fail, start small.

Start small and focus on impressing yourself. With small wins the cost of failure is relatively small too, and if impressing yourself is the goal, you get to rate yourself.

This is about self amusement NOT showing off.

You never want to show off to show up a bully.

Get away with something that will make you feel happy, strong, confident, and satisfied.

Self amusement around a bully always follows our principles: Make it Boring, Less is More, Lose to Win, Never Nice, Always Kind, and Actions speak louder than words.

Here are some self-amusement prompts I’d use according to each BF principle:

Make it boring: Yawn whenever you see the bully .

Less is more: Don’t finish sentences you speak to the bully. Leave them hanging. Better yet, never finish a sentence that’s about the bully either.

Lose to win: Sarcastically say, “You win,” to the bully, or “They win,” about the bully. Then roll your eyes.

Never nice, always kind: Make cringe faces about everything the bully does, but never let them seeing you do it. Just make the cringe face for your own amusement. The key to this is to close your eyes when you do it.

Actions speak louder than words: Laugh more. Laugh at your jokes with yourself.

Remember self-amusement and the thrill of getting away with things no matter the outcome is the ticket. It’s empowering to laugh failure in the face. Taking small risks gets you into the winner’s circle just as much as big ones.

When you feel like a winner, you act and look like one too. Occasionally losing is a small price to pay for that.

Have fun!