KEEPING MY "I" ON YOU

We don't want to work on it, we just want it to work.

Once the big "I's" collide there are just a few options:
    *leave
    *conquer
    *conform
    *compromise

Marriage moves from covenant mode to contract mode.

When desires are translated into expectations we create a debt/debtor relationship.

Behind these expectations are legitimate, God-given desires...

To be:
    respected         understood
    cherished         appreciated      
    accepted         desired
    loved             listened to
    taken care of

How do we know when we have shifted from desires to expectations?
    *expressions of gratitude        
     *acts of service

Marriage is characterized by mutual care and submission, no longer male domination.

And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.   Ephesians 5:21 NLT

Christian marriage is a submission competition.

HOMEWORK:
What does your spouse owe you?