When life becomes a MESS. All that cares for one is impacted especially the kids if one has them. What if its avoidable. When all we had to do was bring our team in early enough. They won't say it. But if they can help they're OK with that. Yet letting it evolve into a mess bothers them because now it's a burden. Some believe in not letting the right hand know what the left is thinking or doing. A recipe to a MESS.