Imposter syndrome can show up when we’re comparing ourselves to other people, trying to be perfect, or worrying we’ll be judged and “found out.” In this episode, we talk about how imposter syndrome has shifted for us with age and experience—and why authenticity helps so much.

We dig into how social media is curated (and built to work with the algorithm), why it’s such a trap to compare your real life to someone else’s highlight reel, and how perfectionism can turn into a shackle. We also share a few practical, good-enough ways to loosen imposter syndrome’s grip: letting ourselves be new at something, giving ourselves permission to say “I don’t know (yet),” and remembering that most people aren’t paying as much attention to us as we think.

What We Talk About

1. 01:49 - Why we’re talking about imposter syndrome: How it changes with age, experience, and caring less what people think
2. 02:20 - Authenticity vs. “fake it till you make it”: Showing up as ourselves and being honest about what we do (and don’t) know
3. 04:19 - Shannon’s coaching imposter syndrome: Feeling siloed, not knowing how we “stack up,” even with lots of client success
4. 06:09 - When the thought has nothing to grab onto: How imposter syndrome fades faster when we’re not fretting about judgment
5. 07:40 - Janine on enjoying being new: Volunteering with experienced people, making mistakes, and not being self-conscious about it
6. 12:00 - What fuels imposter syndrome: Perfectionism, “should” thinking, and comparing ourselves to other people
7. 13:34 - “Don’t compare your insides to other people’s outsides”: Social media is curated for attention and the algorithm, not reality
8. 15:48 - The power of “I don’t know”: Letting ourselves struggle, learn, and find out—without pretending
9. 17:02 - “Nobody is paying as much attention to you as you are”: And if someone is judging us… why do we care?
10. 18:18 - The survival brain piece: Why fear of judgment makes sense—and why it usually isn’t actually dangerous now

Key Takeaways

1. Authenticity is a real relief: When we show up as ourselves—knowing what we know and admitting what we don’t—there’s less room for that “I’m a fraud” feeling to take hold.
2. Perfectionism and comparison feed imposter syndrome: When we think we should be doing more or doing it perfectly, it’s easy to feel like we’re failing—even when we’re doing our best.
3. Social media is curated, not the full truth: It’s designed to attract attention and work with the algorithm, so it’s not a fair (or helpful) comparison point.
4. Being new can be freeing: If we let ourselves be beginners, we don’t have to perform expertise we don’t have yet. Learning mode is gentler than proving mode.
5. Fear of judgment is loud—but usually not accurate: Most people are wrapped up in their own thoughts. And even if someone is judging, that’s about them—not our worth.

The Bottom Line

Imposter syndrome thrives on perfectionism, comparison, and fear of judgment—but it loses power when we let ourselves be human. The more we practice authenticity, let ourselves be new, and remember that other people’s opinions aren’t a threat to our safety, the easier it gets to move through that “what if they find out?” feeling.

Listener Action: This week, pick one place you’ve been feeling “not enough,” and try one small, honest sentence: “I’m new at this,” or “I don’t know yet, but I can find out.” Then notice what shifts when you stop trying to prove yourself.

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Want More?

1. Episode 120: Sneaky Perfectionism — If imposter syndrome tends to show up as “I should be able to do this perfectly (or not at all),” this one will feel very familiar. We talk about how perfectionism hides in plain sight and how “good enough” can help you move forward anyway.
2. Episode 125: Authenticity — We dig into why trying to look perfect is exhausting, and how being more real (even about the messy parts) can actually make life easier. It’s a great companion to this episode’s reminder that honesty beats pretending.
3. Episode 192: Letting Go of Judgment — Imposter syndrome loves judgment—especially the kind we aim at ourselves. In this episode, we talk about easing up on self-criticism and practicing the kind of compassion we’d offer a friend.

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If imposter syndrome shows up for you, we’d love to hear about it—what triggers it, and what helps you move through it.

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