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The Worst Marriage Value Ever: Why Chasing Happiness Destroys Relationships

Episode Description:

What if the #1 value couples chase in marriage is actually destroying their relationships? This week, we confront a dangerous myth: "You get what you tolerate." While it’s true that tolerating bad behavior invites more of it, we reveal the deeper truth from Matthew 6:21: What you value is what you’ll ultimately have.

We expose why making happiness your core value is relationship poison. Through raw stories (like the man who wanted a "goldfish" instead of a wife!), you’ll discover:

• Why demanding constant happiness makes you miserable
• How avoiding "unhappy" work sabotages true intimacy
• Why crisis moments (James 1:2-5) are often God’s pathway to growth, not signals to quit
• The childish mindset that sees marriage as mere gratification

But there’s hope! We introduce the 6 life-changing values that transformed our marriage and will anchor yours:

1. Love of God
2. Love of Your Spouse
3. Honesty
4. Faithfulness
5. Compassion & Forgiveness
6. Holiness

Learn how to:

• Build your marriage "frame" with these non-negotiables
• Cultivate your relationship garden for lasting harvest
• Replace happiness-chasing with righteous indignation against what destroys love
• Become the couple who does the work rather than just wants the reward

Stop tolerating emptiness and start building what lasts. Tune in to discover why values shape destiny—and how choosing the right ones unlocks the marriage God designed.

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