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In The Arena With Avoidant Attachment: Part 1 of 2


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This episode is one of the most personal and transformative ones I’ve recorded yet. I’m talking about the difference between chemistry and compatibility—and why understanding the two could change everything in your love life. I share an honest story of a recent dating experience that triggered my old attachment wounds, and how I navigated it through subconscious healing and the work I teach from The Monday to Friday Principle™️

We dive into:

  • How avoidant attachment styles often stem from childhood experiences and how they show up in adult relationships
  • The difference between a trauma bond and compatibility
  • Why chemistry can feel so intense but still be rooted in unmet needs, not genuine alignment
  • My process of staying open to connection while choosing myself
  • The power of energetic cord cutting and subconscious healing
  • The courage it takes to walk away when someone can’t meet you emotionally
  • The importance of regulating your nervous system and the grief of letting go

Whether you’re currently navigating a similar dynamic or reflecting on a past one, this episode is a loving invitation to choose yourself—while staying open to secure, healthy love.

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It's Gemma SpeakingBy Gemma Matin