Compassion happens in the moment. The first step is noticing that we or or others are struggling or suffering.  A moment of compassion comes with the desire to help. If we really want to be helpful in a moment of compassion we need 3 things: 

Permission to be Human - realizing that we are not alone in what we are going through. Others suffer like this too. It's part of being human.

Equanimity - staying grounded and calm during a tough moment without getting swept away by your own or others thoughts and emotions.

Wisdom - being willing to stay in the moment, uncertain of the outcome, letting the process unfold as you listen deeply to yourself and others.

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