# Ernie

1. Not wanting to incarnate into other peoples dysfunction
2. Do I want to heal people from their brokenness so that I can identify with them? VS
3. Am I willing to identify with people in their brokenness so that God can heal us

# Robby

1. Jesus, how do I grow closer to You in such a way that Your Spirit most deeply shapes what I want and what I pursue?
2. A common tension -- between pursuing the mission and caring for the members -- reflects the feelings among my own family that I “don’t care about them.”
3. The most important question for me is “What does Jesus want?”
   1. My focus tends to then be on how *I* can pursue what *I* imagine He wants.
   2. However this overlooks the reality that the first thing He wants from me is intimacy with me.

# Reframing Offense

"Being versus Feeling Annoyed"

1. Objective analysis (of their wrong)
2. Self-awareness (of my "blaming" thought cycles)
3. Emotional introspection (of the anger/frustration behind those cycles)
4. Humble recognition (that my issues intersect with theirs)
5. Conscious identification (that we both need the same grace)