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Infidelity: Moving on with Compassion


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Episode 4. Infidelity: Moving on with Compassion

On today’s episode, we take on the highly charged topic of infidelity. From the outside, there’s a tendency to harshly judge affairs; however, anyone who has been involved knows it’s often more complicated than it appears.
Today we shed light on some of the nuances that can exist as our co-host, Jill Douglas, tells her story of infidelity. She shares the internal struggles she encountered and the shame she experienced, mostly from her own self-judgment.
This episode isn’t about condoning affairs; it’s about having more compassion and better understanding. And it’s about offering hope for those who have been there: You can forgive (most importantly, yourself), and you can go on to enjoy great relationships.
Ideas discussed:

  • Body betrayal and the pull of physical pleasure
  • Feeling safe enough to say No
  • Shutting down our natural sensuality and openness to make ourselves less attractive – so we don’t get put in the position to say No to unwanted advances
  • The impact of self-judgment and shame
  • Owning all parts of ourself and our healing (and not holding responsibility for another’s)
  • The need to forget and move on, after the healing
  • The impact of keeping secrets (and when it’s important to share them)
  • Resources:

    Esther Perel (relationship and sexuality expert’s focus on infidelity)
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