Insecurity is a universal experience, causing us anxiety and creating negative beliefs about ourselves.

In this episode, Anya shares her own experiences and explains how insecurity can show up in different ways, like making it hard to sleep or causing physical symptoms. She and Mark talk about attachment styles which can lead to feelings of insecurity.

Anya explains the four types of attachment styles: secure, anxious and preoccupied, avoidant and dismissive, and disorganised. They reveal how new experiences can trigger negative beliefs about oneself and lead to social anxiety and a fear of not fitting in.

Three prompts

1. What are you feeling insecure about?
2. What else is true?
3. What if you’re not really insecure, you just think you are?

Resources

• What Is the Negativity Bias?
• The 3 most common causes of insecurity and how to beat them
• Attachment Styles & Their Role in Relationships
• Why Some Children Are Orchids and Others Are Dandelions
• There Are 12 Relationship Patterns. Which Applies to You? - fern and cactus
• Relationships and Chronic Illness
• Insecurity – from GoodTherapy
• [Body doubling for productivity](https://chadd.org/adhd-news/adhd-news-adults/could-a-body-double-help-you-increase-your-productivity/#:~:text=Body doubling is a tool,or virtually through videochat platforms.)
• Syd Banks The Three Principles
• The Inside-Out Revolution: The Only Thing You Need to Know to Change Your Life Forever, by Michael Neill
• The Relationship Handbook: A Simple Guide to Satisfying Relationships - Anniversary Edition, by George Pransky
• The Work by Byron Katie
• Why Aren't We Awesomer? | Michael Neill TEDx
• Anya Pearse, Intuitive advisor and her An Hour of Kindness

This podcast is produced by Origin.