Speaker: Jeff Jarvis

There was a season early in our marriage when I became insecure in my relationship with Cathy. It had me in a world of hurt. I couldn’t focus on anything. There were moments when the insecurity would build and I would lash out at her in anger and then other moments when I would almost smother her with attention or affection - then I would withdraw and give her the silent treatment. I had no idea at the time that these were all desperate attempts to try to get a response from her that would somehow calm my fears...my insecurity. But I was only making things worse!

Feeling insecure in a relationship has to be among the worst feelings when it comes to love. Wondering if a person you love actually loves you back. Wondering if or when they are going to tell you something you don’t want to hear - almost expecting them to turn away or worse...to leave.

Experts seem to agree that one of the most misunderstood and underestimated enemies of close relationships is insecurity. Insecurity that forms from the time we’re young in our interactions with our parents and primary caregivers - and builds with every betrayal and relational setback that we encounter throughout our lives.

It might shock you - just how much of a role insecurity may be playing in your close relationships right now. What might also shock you is how different your relationship(s) would look if you could make it go away. That’s what this series "The Trouble with Love" is all about. Invite some friends and join us this Sunday for Part 1 at the "Spiritual Gym".

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