Inside the Pickle Jar: Connecting with the Spectrum

Week Two is a gift, and this one is rest.

SARK sends us to a cottage on a hill in Ireland: a wood-burning fire, endless art supplies, favorite meals that appear on their own, and a mailbox full of invitations you never have to answer. I walk you through it, with an option for listeners who don't visualize.

First, we go deeper into the Land of No.

In this episode:

• Resistance and inertia: the difference, the signs, and the tiniest movement that breaks the spell
• Why inertia is real for AuDHD brains, and why shame makes it worse
• Inside critics: how to stop arguing with them and give them a new job (SARK sent hers to search for rare lemurs in Madagascar)
• Week Two's gift: the Ireland cottage visualization
• How this pairs with the luxury train from Month One

Your invitation this week: Visit the cottage. Bring one real thing back from it. And try the tiniest movement when inertia shows up.

RESOURCES

• Make Your Creative Dreams Real by SARK - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0743269241 
• Permission to Wobble, Month Two zine - Permission to Wobble: A Creative Year Zine (Month 2) | Printed DIY Zin – Inside the Pickle Jar
• Join the Weird Girls Club - Weird Girls Club – Inside the Pickle Jar
• Last week: Episode 113 - https://www.buzzsprout.com/2378499/episodes/20017129
• The luxury train gift: Episode 110 -https://www.buzzsprout.com/2378499/episodes/19908059

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#WeirdGirlsClub #InsideThePickleJar #CreativeDreamYear #SARK #MakeYourCreativeDreamsReal #LandOfNo #AutisticInertia #ADHD #AuDHD #InnerCritic #Visualization #PickleJarPodcast #NeurodivergentCreatives

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Month Two of the Creative Dream Year begins, and SARK takes us somewhere uncomfortable on purpose: the Land of No.

It's a dark place of barbed wire fences and no-trespassing signs, and many of us live there. This month we ask one question: what stops you?

In this episode:

• The four big ideas of the Succulent Second Month: the Land of No is a dark facade, fear's job is to keep you safe and small, and why you can visit without moving in
• Fear and negativity: SARK's fear list, and why tearing it up creates spaciousness
• Why negative thinking is a "creative dream repellent," and how to reframe it
• Procrastination and perfectionism: "later" and "not yet," and why they're not laziness
• Week One's game: smash something safely, or write a rejection letter to the voices that don't get a vote

Your invitation this week: Make your fear list and tear it up. Smash something (safely!) or write a rejection letter. Come tell us how it felt.

RESOURCES

• Make Your Creative Dreams Real by SARK - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0743269241 
• Permission to Wobble, Month Two zine - https://shop.insidethepicklejar.com
• Join the Weird Girls Club - https://shop.insidethepicklejar.com/collections/weird-girls-club
• Missed Month One? Start at Episode 109 - https://www.buzzsprout.com/admin/2378499/episodes/19870160-fantastic-first-month-finding-and-naming-your-dream-the-creative-dream-year-1

HASHTAGS

#WeirdGirlsClub #InsideThePickleJar #CreativeDreamYear #SARK #MakeYourCreativeDreamsReal #LandOfNo #AuDHD #NeurodivergentCreatives #Perfectionism #Procrastination #RejectionSensitivity #PickleJarPodcast #CreativeCommunity

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We made it. Week Four of the Fantastic First Month and SARK closes it out by opening her bookshelves.

These are the books, websites, and one film she has carried through decades of creative dreaming and given to the people she loves. Not a reading list. An act of generosity. She's saying: here is what helped me. I want it to help you too.

In this episode I walk through every resource on SARK's Radiant Resources list — what each one is, why I think she chose it, and what it might open up in you.

Then we close out the Fantastic First Month together. Four weeks. One dream named. One gift received. One dare taken. A stack of resources in your hands.

Month Two starts next episode. Micro-movements. Structure. The practical side of making the dream real.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE (some you can only buy used)

Books

• A Big New Free Happy Unusual Life by Nina Wise - Goodreads | Search your local library
• A Creative Companion by SARK - Goodreads | Available new and used online
• Make Your Creative Dreams Real by SARK (the book we're reading this year) - Goodreads
• The Right to Write by Julia Cameron - Publisher page | Julia Cameron's site
• Energy Medicine by Donna Eden - Publisher's Weekly listing | Search your local library
• Fingerpainting on the Moon by Peter Levitt - Goodreads | Search your local library
• Traveling Light (StoryPeople) by Brian Andreas - storypeople.com | Goodreads

Websites

• storypeople.com — Brian Andreas's home for StoryPeople art and writing
• peoplewhodare.com
• cherylrichardson.com
• marcallen.com

Film

• Beautiful Dreamers (1990, dir. John Kent Harrison) - IMDb | Wikipedia | Check streaming, YouTube rental, or your local library

MORE FROM INSIDE THE PICKLE JAR

• 🎙️ Start the Creative Dream Year from the beginning: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2378499/episodes/19870160
• 💛 Join the Weird Girls Club community: Weird Girls Club – Inside the Pickle Jar
• 🛍️ Creative Dream Year zine + shop: Weird Girls Club – Inside the Pickle Jar
• 📬 Subscribe for updates: https://insidethepicklejar.com/the-creative-year/

HASHTAGS

#WeirdGirlsClub #InsideThePickleJar #CreativeDreamYear #SARK #MakeYourCreativeDreamsReal #RadiantResources #NeurodivergentCreatives #AuDHD #CreativeDreaming #BookRecommendations #JuliaCameron #TheRightToWrite #BeautifulDreamers #BrianAndreas #StoryPeople

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We're partway through Week Two of the Creative Dream Year which means it's time to go back to the foundations AND hand you Week Three's challenge. And SARK's dare this week is a big one.

In this episode:

• A recap of the Fantastic First Month foundations: why you cannot choose the wrong dream, what SARK means by "more time never comes," how knowing your dream's developmental stage changes everything you do with it, and why naming your dream out loud is how it becomes real
• Week Three: A Positive Challenge - I Dare You: SARK's invitation to ask one person to be your compassionate witness
• What a compassionate witness actually does (and doesn't do...no advising, no fixing, no reality-checking)
• Why this is so hard for those of us with AuDHD and rejection sensitivity and why SARK says it's worth doing anyway
• What to offer in return, and how making it a mutual exchange changes everything
• How to set up the conversation so your witness knows exactly what you need
• Why talking about your dream expands it and how the Weird Girls Club is itself a compassionate witness

Your invitation this week: Ask one friend to be your compassionate witness. Describe your creative dream to them in full. No solutions needed, just witnessing. And offer to witness them in return.

If that feels like too much right now: write the description. Write what you would say to your witness if you had one. Or share it will us Inside the Pickle Jar

Resources mentioned:

• Make Your Creative Dreams Real by SARK https://www.amazon.com/dp/0743269241 
• Weird Girls Club community https://shop.insidethepicklejar.com/collections/weird-girls-club
• Creative Dream Zine either a digital download or a physical packet in the link above.
  Here's a link on how to make one: https://youtu.be/4-H67SqxRO4

Join the Creative Year: https://insidethepicklejar.com/the-creative-year/

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Week Two of the Creative Dream Year is a gift. And it starts next week. 

Not a task. Not a checklist. A place to go inside your own mind where everything you need is already there.

SARK sends us on a luxury train ride, a guided visualization she calls "A Gift for You." It is a resting place for the creative mind, a journey for the imagination, and an invitation to let your brain open up instead of clench shut.

Before we get there, we return to the big ideas of the Fantastic First Month. The ones worth saying more than once:

The four foundations we are living with all month:

• You cannot choose the wrong dream
• Many dreams are undercover...in drawers, closets, and computers...and more time never comes
• Your dream has a life stage, and knowing which one changes how you care for it
• Naming your dream makes it more real

Week Two - A Gift for You:
SARK sends you on a luxury train ride. All the inspiring people you've ever wanted to meet are there. So is every book you've ever wanted to read. Time stands still if you nap. And you can board this train any time you want.

Your invitation for next week:
Try the visualization. Actually try it. Lie down, read it slowly, or listen back to this episode somewhere comfortable. Then write down anything that came up, an image, a feeling, a person who showed up. Dreams use imagery. Pay attention to what your imagination offers when you give it permission.

Come tell us what you found in the Weird Girls Club community especially on the meeting videos on all socials.

GET THE BOOK

Make Your Creative Dreams Real by SARK
 Available on Amazon and wherever books are sold.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0743269241 

GET THE ZINE

Permission to Begin - A Creative Year Zine | Month 1

A printable zine companion to this month's chapter. Eight panels to fold, fill in, and carry with you all month. Also available as a physical packet with ephemera and stickers.

Available in the shop at insidethepicklejar.com

https://shop.insidethepicklejar.com/products/permission-to-begin-a-creative-year-zine-month-1-a-pickle-jar-zine-digital-download?variant=67537069965547

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JOIN THE WEIRD GIRLS CLUB

The community where we are doing this together — all year long.

https://shop.insidethepicklejar.com/collections/weird-girls-club

FREE RESOURCE

Four Things I Need the People in My Life to Know About My Brain
A free guide that does the explaining for you.

https://insidethepicklejar.com/

MISSED AN EPISODE?

Episode 109 - Fantastic First Month, Week One: A Game or Something to Try
We created our Creative Dream Guidebooks and named our dreams for the first time.
https://www.buzzsprout.com/admin/2378499/episodes/19870160-fantastic-first-month-finding-and-naming-your-dream-the-creative-dream-year-1

Episode 108 - A Letter to My AuDHD Self — and maybe yours
The episode that announced the Creative Dream Year.
https://www.buzzsprout.com/admin/2378499/episodes/19797701-a-letter-to-my-younger-audhd-self-and-maybe-yours

WHAT IS COMING NEXT

Week Three of the Fantastic First Month...Naming your dream goes deeper. SARK is going to ask you something that might be harder than you expect.

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Today is the first episode of the Creative Dream Year.

The Weird Girls Club is spending twelve months working through Make Your Creative Dreams Real by SARK, month by month, week by week, micro-movement by micro-movement. And this is where we begin.

We are in the Fantastic First Month: Finding and Naming Your Dream. And Week One has one simple game to try: create your Creative Dream Guidebook. A blank book, a journal, loose paper clipped together anything that gives your dream a place to live outside your head.

Because naming your dream makes it more real. And more real means more possible.

This episode also covers the big ideas we will be living with all month. The ones we will return to every week of October as our foundation.

The four big ideas of the Fantastic First Month:

• You cannot choose the wrong dream
• Many dreams are undercover...in drawers, closets, and computers waiting for "someday" that never comes
• Your dream has a life stage and knowing which one changes how you care for it
• Naming your dream makes it more real

Week One - A Game or Something to Try: Create your Creative Dream Guidebook. Give your dream a home on paper. That is your first micro-movement.

Your homework this week: Name your dream. Even roughly. Even imperfectly. Write it down somewhere and then come tell us what it is in the comments, in the community, anywhere you feel safe saying it out loud.

Because talking about dreams expands them. And we are here to expand together.

GET THE BOOK

Make Your Creative Dreams Real by SARK Available on Amazon and wherever books are sold.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0743269241 

GET THE ZINE

Permission to Begin - A Creative Year Zine | Month 1

You can use any paper you would like. If you want the printed zine I use in the YouTube video there is a printable zine companion to this month's chapter. Eight panels to fold, fill in, and carry with you all month.

Available in the shop at insidethepicklejar.com

https://shop.insidethepicklejar.com/products/permission-to-begin-a-creative-year-zine-month-1-a-pickle-jar-zine-digital-download?variant=67537069965547

JOIN THE WEIRD GIRLS CLUB

The community where we are doing this together — all year long.

Weird Girls Club – Inside the Pickle Jar

FREE RESOURCE

Four Things I Need the People in My Life to Know About My Brain A free guide that does the explaining for you.

https://www.insidethepicklejar.com

MISSED THE ANNOUNCEMENT EPISODE?

Episode 108: A Letter to My Younger AuDHD Self (and maybe yours) The final episode of the Weird Girls Club introductory series and the one that announced the Creative Dream Year. https://www.buzzsprout.com/admin/2378499/episodes/19797701-a-letter-to-my-younger-audhd-self-and-maybe-yours

WHAT IS COMING NEXT

Week Two of the Fantastic First Month - A Gift for You. SARK sends us somewhere beautiful. Stay tuned.

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This is the one I saved for last.

Because I think it is the most important one.

We have talked about the things we do that look weird but make complete sense. We have talked about the friendship thing and why connection is so hard and so intense for our brains. Today I want to do something different.

I want to write a letter.

To the younger version of you. The one who was figuring all of this out without a map. Without language. Without anyone who could tell her what was actually happening in her brain.

This is what we wish someone had said to us earlier.

In this letter:

• The exhaustion is real and it has a name
• Your intensity is not a flaw, it is a gift for the right people
• The unspoken rules were never obvious to everyone
• Your brain has superpowers too
• It is okay to not know who you are yet
• You were always going to be okay

And one more thing:

Something big is coming October 1. The Weird Girls Club is redefining new year, and we are spending a full year doing something together. Listen to the end to find out what.

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SOMETHING BIG IS COMING OCTOBER 1

Starting October 1 the Weird Girls Club is spending a full year reading Make Your Creative Dreams Real by SARK...month by month, week by week, micro-movement by micro-movement.

Go order the book now so you have it in your hands before we begin.

Make Your Creative Dreams Real by SARK, available on Amazon and wherever books are sold. Here is the Amazon link: https://a.co/d/02f7oWpp (it is NOT an affiliate link. I make $0 on the purchase. I just wanted to make is easy for you to find.)

FREE RESOURCE

Four Things I Need the People in My Life to Know About My Brain A free guide that does the explaining for you.

https://www.insidethepicklejar.com

THIS IS EPISODE 108 — THE END OF THE FIRST WEIRD GIRLS CLUB SERIES

Episode 106: The Things We Do That Look Weird But Make Complete Sense https://www.buzzsprout.com/admin/2378499/episodes/19725412-the-things-we-do-that-look-weird-but-make-complete-sense

Episode 107: The Friendship Thing https://www.buzzsprout.com/admin/2378499/episodes/19762550-the-friendship-thing-why-it-s-so-hard

The Weird Girls Club series continues October 1 with something bigger than we have done before. Subscribe so you do not miss it.

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Nobody tells you that friendship is supposed to feel this hard.

You watch other people make friends effortlessly, at work, at parties, in class, and you wonder what you are missing. What the unwritten rulebook says that everyone else seems to have already read.

And then when you do find someone who gets it, really gets it, you love them with your whole heart and excellent memory and complete devotion. And sometimes that is too much for the person receiving it. And you learn, slowly and painfully, to turn it down.

This episode is about all of it. The making. The losing. The loving too hard. And why none of it means you are broken.

In this episode:

• Why making friends is genuinely harder for AuDHD brains and what is actually happening neurologically

• The specific ways we lose friendships without ever understanding what went wrong

• Time blindness and the friendship gap - why silence reads as indifference when it is anything but

• What it means to love with the full force of an AuDHD heart

• Why the right people will not ask you to turn it down

• What the Weird Girls Club is for

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Welcome to the Weird Girls Club.

This is a new series inside Inside the Pickle Jar for the woman who has always felt a little too much, a little too intense, a little too different. The one who figured out early that certain parts of herself needed to stay hidden in order to belong. The one who is done pretending.

We are starting with the things we do that look weird from the outside but make complete and total sense once you understand how our brains actually work.

The stimming that everyone told you to stop. The conversations you rehearse in your head before you have them. The same outfit worn until it is genuinely unwearable. The same meal eaten for three weeks straight until you suddenly cannot stand it.

You are not weird. You are wired differently. And there is a jar full of people who do exactly what you do.

In this episode:

• What stimming actually is and why stopping it makes focus worse, not better
• Why scripting conversations in advance is adaptive and resourceful, not anxious
• The nervous system logic behind wearing the same outfit and eating the same meal on repeat
• Why these things are not flaws — they are your brain being extremely smart about conserving its resources
• An introduction to the Weird Girls Club and what it is for

JOIN THE WEIRD GIRLS CLUB

The Weird Girls Club is officially open.

It is the community for AuDHD women who are done pretending and ready to be known exactly as they are.

Weird Girls Club – Inside the Pickle Jar

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If there is someone in your life who still thinks the things you do are weird rather than wired, I made something that might help explain it.

Four Things I Need the People in My Life to Know About My Brain A free guide that does the explaining for you.

https://www.insidethepicklejar.com

THIS IS EPISODE 106

Starting our third year. One hundred and six episodes. Thank you for being here for every single one of them.

The jar exists because you kept showing up. And so do we.

MORE FROM THE WEIRD GIRLS CLUB SERIES

This is the first episode in the Weird Girls Club series. More coming soon:

• The Friendship Thing - why making and keeping friends is so much harder than anyone realizes
• What We Wish Someone Had Said to Us Earlier - a letter to the younger version of you

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Meet Eleanor.

She is bright blue, she has three eyes, and she sees absolutely everything.

Eleanor is the Focus Sprite, the last character in the Inside the Pickle Jar neighborhood, and she represents something that I think is one of the most misunderstood experiences in the neurodivergent world. Not a deficit of attention. A deficit of attention filtering. Eleanor is not failing to pay attention. She is paying attention to everything simultaneously, all the time, without being able to easily decide what matters and what does not.

She is the reason you notice things other people miss. The reason sensory environments cost so much. The reason certain spaces feel impossible and certain others feel like home. And the reason your brain, when it is in the right conditions, sees connections and patterns that genuinely extraordinary minds are built to see.

This is also a milestone episode. Inside the Pickle Jar is entering its third year. And I want to take a moment to say thank you to everyone who has been in this space, who has shared these episodes, who has told someone else that they finally found the language they were looking for. The jar exists because you kept showing up. And I am so glad you are here.

In this episode:

• Meet Eleanor, the Focus Sprite - the sixth and final character in the Inside the Pickle Jar neighborhood
• What distractibility actually is - and why attention filtering is a more accurate description than attention deficit
• What it costs to live in a brain that processes everything consciously
• The gift Eleanor carries - pattern recognition, perceptiveness, and a kind of intelligence the world has not always known what to do with
• A milestone moment - Inside the Pickle Jar enters its third year

FREE RESOURCE

If there is someone in your life who still thinks your distractibility is a choice or a lack of effort, I made something that might help explain what is actually happening.

Four Things I Need the People in My Life to Know About My Brain A free guide that does the explaining for you.

https://www.insidethepicklejar.com

MEET THE WHOLE NEIGHBORHOOD

Now that Eleanor has joined the jar, all six characters are here:

• Emily - The Time Blindness Goblin
• Lily - The Executive Function Gremlin
• Rosie - The Stress Monster
• Millie - The Hyperfocus Dragon
• Eleanor - The Focus Sprite
• Little T - The Inner Child Archivist

Stickers and trading cards for the neighborhood are available in the shop at insidethepicklejar.com

MISSED PREVIOUS EPISODES?

Episode 6: Meet Emily — The Time Blindness Goblin https://www.buzzsprout.com/2378499/episodes/19588342-meet-emily-the-time-blindness-goblin-and-why-it-s-not-your-fault-you-re-late

Episode 7: Meet Lily — The Executive Function Gremlin https://www.buzzsprout.com/2378499/episodes/19621364-you-re-not-lazy-meet-lily-the-executive-function-gremlin

Episode 8: Meet Rosie — The Stress Monster https://www.buzzsprout.com/2378499/episodes/19654247-meet-rosie-the-stress-monster-and-why-you-need-rest

Episode 9: Meet Millie — The Hyperfocus Dragon https://www.buzzsprout.com/2378499/episodes/19688213-meet-millie-the-hyperfocus-dragon-and-how-to-use-your-super-power

THREE YEARS IN THE JAR

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