Santos, a bassist and sex educator, shares the story of his life in New York City, from his strict upbringing in East New York in the 80's, to his introduction to the punk and hardcore scene in the 90's, and his experiences with manhood and trans community in the 2000's and beyond. He emphasizes the importance of pleasure, vulnerability, and respect in his relationships with others. In particular, he discusses navigating and discovering gay sexuality, his long-term romantic relationships, and seeking supportive community and acceptance. (Summary by Jamie Magyar.)