"To buy the Intimacy Anorexia® Steps Guide: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/intimacy-anorexia-steps-guide/

Intimacy anorexia is the active withholding emotionally, spiritually, and sexually from your significant other, making them feel alone and disconnected. The pain and even trauma they experience from this are real due to you withholding your heart from them. However,

the 12 Steps of the recovery process has helped many recover over the years, and it can help you as well. Dr. Doug Weiss, licensed psychologist and national author, walks you through Step Four in this video.

Step Four is about having made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. Here, you will begin to see patterns and why you are dealing with intimacy anorexia in your life. You are not evaluating others in this process but only yourself. To fearlessly and honestly discover your own heart, motives, and story in the life you have. With your search results, you will then sort them into three different columns.

The first column, is where you put the good you did in your life, for yourself and for others.

The second column of the inventory consists of bad decisions you made, both small and great. Things that had negative consequences, hurting you and those around you. It's important to be honest and own the bad choices you made. However, even if did them, it doesn't mean that you're bad.

With the last column, it's the ugly stuff that happened to you that you had no control over or responsibility for. Things that include abuse, a bad childhood or family growing up, events where others have hurt you, etc. These things may have impacted the decisions you make.

It's important that you don't do this process by yourself. Intimacy Anorexics need to connect and attach to others. Have support and be known.

Also, don't dwell on this step for too long. You don't want to continuously swim in the bad and ugly soup. It can be hard to see your weaknesses and flaws and you may believe that you are bad and unloved person. You are loved but you have to choose to go through this process fearlessly and honestly, to accept the flaws you have. Do the work and move onto Step Five as soon as you can.

Visit https://intimacyanorexia.com/ for more information about Intimacy Anorexia.

Also, we have a test you can take to determine if Intimacy Anorexia® is the issue in your marriage. Take the test here: https://intimacyanorexia.com/ia-test/

For information about Intimacy Anorexia support groups, go to: https://www.drdougweiss.com/intimacy-anorexia-group/

or call us at 719-278-3708

If you're the partner of an Intimacy Anorexic®, we call that Married and Alone. We have plenty of materials, as well as support groups.

To buy the Intimacy Anorexia book: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/intimacy-anorexia-book/

To buy the Intimacy Anorexia DVD:

https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/intimacy-anorexia-dvd/

To buy the Intimacy Anorexia® Workbook: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/intimacy-anorexia-workbook/

Intimacy Anorexia phone support groups for men and women: https://www.drdougweiss.com/intimacy-anorexia-group/

For the Facebook support group for women who are intimacy anorexic: https://www.facebook.com/groups/femaleIA

For information on marriage counseling and intensives, go to https://www.drdougweiss.com/counseling/

For a full list of Dr. Doug’s products, go to https://www.drdougweiss.com/store/

Doug Weiss, Ph.D., is a nationally known author, speaker and licensed psychologist. He is the executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and the author of several books including, Partner Betrayal Trauma ™.

You may contact Dr. Weiss via his website, https://www.drdougweiss.com/ or on his Facebook https://www.facebook.com/drdougweiss/

by phone at 719-278-3708 or through email at [email protected]"