In this video, Dr. Doug Weiss, Licensed Psychologist and foremost expert of intimacy anorexia, walks you through Step Seven of the journey.

With Step Seven, one must “humbly ask Him to remove our shortcomings”.

When working on steps Four and Five we discovered our assets and our shortcomings. With Step Six we became prepared to deal with these qualities so that in Step 7 we could be ready to act.

So here’s the thing, ridding yourself of Intimacy Anorexia is a big change. I think you know this by now! Moving into step seven actually involves us in the personal change of actively letting go of our shortcomings, actions and feelings that are liabilities. This change requires effort and action.

Simply asking for your shortcomings to be removed does not automatically make them go away. It is up to you to be aware and make new choices. Many people in recovery find comfort that their higher power can and does remove their character defects shortcomings when asked.

While working on the previous six steps you’ve been stripping away age-old layers of denial, ego, self-centeredness and other liabilities that consumed you when you were active in intimacy anorexia. When we arrive at step seven we are ready to stop thinking so much about what we are going to get in life and start looking at how we can be a great spouse and father, and contribute to others in the world.

As an intimacy anorexic in recovery, you can take stock of our own journey, acknowledge your strengths and use them with humility, seeking only for an honest way of living in a connected and relational reality.

Deep and lasting change comes slowly, and no one lets go of shortcomings all at once. However, they do disappear as we become aware of them and take action, one at a time, one day at a time.

Visit https://intimacyanorexia.com/ for more information about Intimacy Anorexia and to take a test you can take to determine if Intimacy Anorexia® is the issue in your marriage.

For information about Intimacy Anorexia support groups, go to: https://www.drdougweiss.com/intimacy-anorexia-group/

or call us at 719-278-3708

If you're the partner of an Intimacy Anorexic®, we call that Married and Alone. We have plenty of materials, as well as support groups.

For more information about our support groups regarding Intimacy Anorexia or being Married & Alone, go to:

https://www.drdougweiss.com/groups/

https://www.drdougweiss.com/facebook-groups/

The recommended materials mentioned in the video:

The Intimacy Anorexia® Steps Guide

Intimacy Anorexia book

Intimacy Anorexia DVD

Intimacy Anorexia® Workbook

Intimacy Anorexia Recovery Set

These can be purchased at: https://www.drdougweiss.com/store

For information on marriage counseling and intensives, go to https://www.drdougweiss.com/counseling/

For a full list of Dr. Doug’s products, go to https://www.drdougweiss.com/store/

Doug Weiss, Ph.D., is a nationally known author, speaker and licensed psychologist. He is the executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and the author of several books including, Partner Betrayal Trauma ™.

You may contact Dr. Weiss via his website, https://www.drdougweiss.com/ or on his Facebook https://www.facebook.com/drdougweiss/

by phone at 719-278-3708 or through email at [email protected]