In this episode of Reconnect with Laira Thomas, we dive deep into intimacy, desire, and the complexities of sexual connection with psychotherapist and registered sex therapist Carlyle Jansen. From understanding libido differences to navigating sexual communication, this conversation is full of insights that can help you strengthen your relationship.

We explore:
✨ Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire – What’s the difference, and why does it matter?
✨ How to Address Libido Differences – Finding balance when one partner wants sex more often than the other.
✨ The Importance of Non-Sexual Touch – Why physical affection outside of sex is crucial.
✨ Scheduling Intimacy – How planning sex can actually make it better.
✨ Communicating About Sex Without Shame – How to discuss desires, needs, and boundaries openly.

Whether you struggle with mismatched libidos, feel disconnected in your relationship, or simply want to improve intimacy, this episode provides practical advice on fostering a stronger emotional and physical connection.

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Join us for an open, informative, and emotionally supportive conversation about relationships, intimacy, and the power of communication.

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00:00 Intro

07:09 Transitioning from Retail to Therapy

09:38 Understanding Libido and Desire in Relationships

13:29 Navigating Differences in Sexual Desire

18:14 Acceptance and Communication in Sexual Relationships

24:27 Transitioning to a Sexual Mindset

26:48 The Role of Communication in Relationships

27:39 Expressing Vulnerability and Honesty

30:50 Initiating and Declining Intimacy with Compassion

35:23 Non-Sexual Touch and Affection

38:51 Common Issues in Sexual Relationships

41:13 Personal Reflections and Advice