"Redefine Your Original Viewpoint on Sex

Build An Erotic Love Map Together

An erotic love map explores your partner’s preferences and desires. As you build this love map, try to ask specific questions about their needs and desires in bed. Start with these questions as you build a comprehensive list tailored to your unique relationship.

Sex and intimacy do not always go hand in hand. However, by building a love map together, you and your partner can garner a better understanding of each other’s tastes and desires. Allowing yourself to become vulnerable when talking intimately about sex can be effective in bridging the gap between the two terms.

Eliminate Distractions

Silence your phone. Put it away. Pay attention to your partner. With so much going on in the world around us, it can be easy to become distracted. You must focus your attention on your partner during something as intimate as sex. Allowing yourself to become distracted may delay sexual pleasure and frustrate your partner. Eliminating objects such as your cell phone or laptop can prevent you from getting distracted and allow you to focus on the moment instead.

Don’t Be Afraid to Slow It Down

Sometimes, you just need to take things slowly. This may entail slowing down the conversation when it comes to your unique sexual desire or the required level of intimacy from your partner. Some people need more time and patience when it comes to expressing their sexual needs.

It can also involve literal interpretation in the bedroom. Slowing down your movements allows you to remain in the moment and enjoy the unique connection you share with your partner. Remember to focus on the present experience rather than the end goal of achieving an orgasm.

Use Your Words and Talk To Each Other

Try to sit down with your partner and discuss your interests and desires together. Active listening is important for both parties as well as honesty when discussing their thoughts. Make sure you are having these conversations outside of the bedroom. They need to be taken seriously and should be done without any distractions. While the idea of talking about your sexual needs not being completely met sounds awkward, it will allow you to focus on other, more fun parts of your relationship.

Being honest during these sessions is critical. If you don’t tell your partner what you need, they cannot fulfill you the way you need them to. Don’t be afraid to ask questions either, such as “What do you need more of?” or “What is something we can do differently?” When done successfully, these intimate conversations can allow your partner to sexually satisfy one another without having to do any guesswork."

"I honor reasonable confidentiality within adult films and outside of adult films concerning my lovers. I share what's important to the correct audiences with the permission of my lovers. My co-stars and I will be cool with each other. They may or may not want to have off-camera sex. Either way, we'll always be cool with one another. My lovers (professional and personal) think these same ways too." -Antonio Myers