An introduction the the podcast Working on Amazing.  Where we talk about the work of rebuilding an amazing life.  Specifically the work of rebuilding a life in the middle of heartache, after coming out of a long term relationship.  

Transcript:

Hi, my name is Tiffany, and welcome to the podcast, Working on Amazing.

This is our very first episode, so let's go over some basics.

Let's talk about things like, who is this podcast geared toward, and what type of topics we'll be covering in future episodes.

So right off the bat, this podcast is geared towards women, women most likely who are going through a divorce.

You maybe have gone through a major breakup, maybe you never got married, but you were long-term partners.

And even possibly could be there for people who have lost a spouse.

But most typically, this is really for women who are going through a divorce, women who plan their life and their future with another person, and that person isn't there.

So if that is you, I understand that it feels kind of overwhelming.

All your plans for the future just kind of go up in smoke suddenly, and you've got to start rebuilding.

You got to rebuild your life in the middle of your life.

And that does not feel good.

It actually kind of made me angry.

But if that is you, I do want to say you are not alone.

And what I found, even though when I was going through it, it did feel lonely, and I'm sure you probably feel lonely.

You're not alone.

So many women have gone through it.

I've talked to countless women who have gone through this process.

And the good news is they've come out on the other side better for it.

And my thought is, why should we all go through this process alone, blindly?

Why don't we start kind of sharing what worked and our tips and our tricks and how we got through this?

Because it is a tough season, right?

It definitely felt like a dark night of the soul for me.

Figuring out and refinding your footing in this new normal life, it takes some time, right?

So let's talk to each other.

Let's not just go through it alone.

Let's share what works and what doesn't work.

All kinds of different things.

So I'll tell you a little bit about me.

I got married when I was 21, and I got divorced when I was 41.

Now, I definitely never planned on getting divorced.

Like, that was like, no.

So to actually have to face that really rocked my world.

I mean, it really did.

I struggled because I swore that that's what I would never do, and then here I was.

And I had spent 20 years, half my life, all of my adult life with another individual who is now no longer there.

I had two children and I thought I am totally responsible for them.

Because of our arrangement, I had 100% full-time custody.

I had no one else to tag team with and say, okay, you're on duty tonight.

You know, I just need a break.

The responsibility felt overwhelming.

It was, I struggled emotionally, like I said, because I thought I would never get divorced.

And I had to face what I said I would never do, right?

And just the practical side of it, I did.

I threw a pity party.

I'm not even going to lie.

I wish that I would have handled it with more grace and more dignity, but I did not.

I was upset, and I think I would have wallowed in self-pity and just brokenheartedness.

But I had those two kids, right?

Two kids who were looking up to me, and I thought the only way to teach them resilience is to be resilient.

I have to show them.

I have to lead by example, and that sucked.

But it made me get up and dust myself o