Welcome to Embers and Wind!

Guest Peter Hobler states “As a parent, everything we say and do teaches and impacts our children. Especially in nasty divorce scenarios, contentious divorce scenarios, there’s so much arguing, fighting, accusations. There’s no communications. There’s no more trust. And every single aspect of that, of every interaction, whether the kids are present or not, and again this is partly why they are the innocent victims, they have nothing to do with it. Sometimes they’re not present but it will still affect your kids and the potential for life long emotional and psychological trauma is huge for children whose parents are going through or already divorced as long as all of this is still happening.”

I'm your host, Keith Weedman. In each podcast episode, you will hear stories. These stories will feel like a tender wind blowing on the embers of service that glow within you. In this weekly show, you will learn ideas, kindling for your embers. It will be your choice to utilize the gentle wind to ignite the kindling. 

In this episode, Peter shares his story about going through a divorce where his greatest fear was that his child’s mother would deprive him of having contact with his daughter. He talks about how JT, his life coach at that time, helped him through a coaching session that focused on personal responsibility. After hanging up the phone he remembers looking in the mirror and asking himself who is responsible for his angry reactions toward his estranged spouse. He knew it was the person in the mirror who was responsible. He started assuming responsibility for his reaction. When he got angry at his ex, he apologized after calming down. Peter applied the lessons he learned in his first marriage to become a better husband for his second wife, Laurie. Ensuring his then 3-year-old daughter thrived in spite of his divorce was his priority then. Several years ago, Peter committed himself to helping divorcing and divorced dads help their children thrive in spite of their parents divorce, he founded the Ex-Factor, created course curriculum and wrote two books. His love for his daughter is still the driving force behind setting his intention to help divorcing dads have the love for their children be the force that drives them.  His wife Laurie helped him edit his book, Split Harmony: Turn the “Ex-Factor” from Chaos to Compassion by bringing to Peter’s attention that forgiveness belonged in his book. Peter has already launched a Masterclass and he has a second course nearly completed.

To connect with Peter his company’s website is the website listed for this episode. He offers a free clarity exercise to help dads going through a divorce gain clarity. To access this free tool, click on this link: www.Theex-factor.com/clarityexercise. To reach Peter by email, his email address is [email protected].  

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