Mel’s Mindful Moments S1-E29 transcript:

I’ve been pondering a question lately: 

Is “Love” real?

Or do we hide behind this word as a way of covering up our own selfishness?

It seems to me that love turns out to be more of a contract than anything else.

It could even be a form of ownership, rather than a way of showing affection.

We often become “bound” by this emotion of “Love”

“Friendship”, on the other hand, is something I can understand a little better.

It is based some common interest that draws you together.

Usually there are no hidden agendas or underlying selfish motives.

You’re not trying to “get” anything from someone, you're just sharing your interests together.

Now if we look at some definitions:

Selfishness is defined as:

... seeking one’s own advantage, pleasure or well-being without regard for others.

Love is defined as:

... a feeling of intense affection or personal attachment for someone.

Now the word “attachment” gives means me the feeling of being bound.

Friendship, on the other hand:

... is a state of enduring affections, and trust between two people.

Maybe it’s just me, maybe love does exists, I just haven’t experienced it.

But the kind of love I have seen, looks more like selfishness than anything else.

For me, friendship is less complicated.

Of course this is my opinion, yours may be different.

We can agree to disagree there.

But whatever type relationship you have, I hope they are free from selfishness.