Love is not chemistry, compatibility tests, or waiting for someone who magically “gets us.” According to Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, the couple behind Getting the Love You Want, love is a practice that rewires us over time.

In this episode, we talk about how two therapists who literally wrote the book on marriage came within inches of divorce, and why their relationship became stronger not by knowing more, but by doing things differently.

We explore how conflict can actually be a doorway into connection, why our brains go to war with the people we love, and how simple daily habits (like asking for permission before speaking, mirroring, and genuine affirmations) can change how safe we feel with others… and how safe they feel with us.