Feeling invisible & insignificant is soul-crushing. But there is a way out of this mindset by focusing on growing your self-awareness, leaning into vulnerability & pulling away from people-pleasing behaviors. Here are 8 tips that can help you on this journey.

Show Notes:
I think I have made 3 or 4 videos about this topic over the last week or so because it’s really been hitting me hard. And a lot of my life was spent believing I was less than everyone else & insignificant because it always felt like no one noticed me or cared what I was doing. I would often describe it as feel invisible.

But I was also a people pleaser, so that didn’t help because my main job as a people pleaser was to make sure everyone else was front & center. I was highlighting everyone else & not spending any time on myself. So I actually think it’s funny (only in retrospec, of course) because I was so determined to put myself last, yet still had this feeling of being invisible & not wanting to be. It’s like a part of me was crying out to be released from this people-pleaser behavior but didn’t have strong enough will to do so.

But this is a struggle many of us have but don’t speak up about because despite the fact that we want to be recognized, we don’t want to look selfish by bringing those feelings up. It feels like a catch-22 and you can’t win either way. But you can, it’s just that the only way you can win is by honoring those emotions you have and digging deeper into where those feelings came from, how those were developed, why you continue to believe these limiting beliefs & what you are willing to do to be free from feeling like this so often.

Another reason this is so important to talk about is because it is soul-crushing to walk around and live your life believing you are invisible & not as worthy as other people. Some days it won’t bother you as much, other days it will eat you alive, and other days still it will fester into nasty comparison with jealousy & envy on board. It’s not a good situation.

So let’s talk about how we can pull away from this mindset of feeling invisible & insignificant and more towards something more neutral in the least or even inching towards more appreciation:

1. Be aware of what triggers these feelings. (Then honor those emotions)
2. What is the fear that is holding you in this mindset? (being judged for who you are? For your insecurities? For not being at the same level as someone else?)
3. Are you participating in your life? (If you are checked out and not trying to foster relationships, or share your own opinions, shake up your routine, try new experiences, then you’re not trying to enjoy your life.)
4. Work on setting personal boundaries & dialing back people-pleaser behaviors.
5. Release the need to compare yourself to others.
6. Celebrate what you’ve done & what you’re working towards.
7. Create a plan to push you toward a goal. (take small steps, find something that brings you joy, it doesn’t have to be something big, either.)
8. Put time into improving your self-confidence. (start with working on self-awareness, accept your mistakes & failures and keep challenging yourself.)

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