It’s that time of the year when we all have different perspectives on many topics and lately there have been many questions and diverse reactions that lead me to being called to do a Podcast on Perspective.

Many people get excited about the holidays, the planning, the get-togethers, decorations and so on.  Yet, it isn’t the same for everyone. There are many people who are suffering from loss, loneliness or illness and they would rather hide than celebrate the holidays, especially with happy people.

Their internal sadness is so deep they don’t know how to feel right now.

Have you ever gone to the store, excited about what’s going on in your own life? when some stranger snaps at you, it either makes you stop and think to yourself, “What the heck is their problem?” or your empathy and compassion kick in and you realize they must be suffering something internally because you know you didn’t do anything wrong. It just so happened that your unexpected light was trying to shine into their darkness.

It’s all in perspective.

Not everyone is ready for that light because they are still processing.

Maybe the holidays in general are a constant reminder of something that happened from your past and you're struggling to be around happy people.

Maybe you’re that person who looks at someone in that big beautifully decorated house and thinks they have it all, and don’t have a clue what suffering feels like. They just might be suffering the same, they just hide it differently by filling up their time and space with “stuff”, decorations, parties, etc.

Maybe you’re that person who sees that homeless person and thinks, “Just go get a job and stop begging!” But, you don’t know their story; they may have lost their job, their family and all their belongings and don’t have the guidance of knowing what to do. Maybe the fear of asking for help dug that rabbit hole a little deeper?

It’s all in perspective.

Maybe this is your first year being separated or divorced and you don’t get to see your child(ren) on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day like you have for years?

Maybe you’re dealing with sharing your child(ren) with another person because of the separation or divorce and it’s hard?

Understanding the perspective that everyone grieves differently, deals with loss, separation, and change differently. There isn’t a right or wrong way, it just takes time. It’s all in perspective.

How we see things is our own perspective. When we judge someone, their life and their emotions, we are not seeing the situation through their eyes, only our perspective.

Have you ever thought about what a positive perspective with Hope, Faith, and love might look or feel like?

Every job is important. No matter what you do.

If you are the CEO or manager of a company, don’t forget to thank the people who have helped you become where you are. Everyone works together.

When you look at others through their perspective, you just might see a different side which may make you smile and feel joy in your heart.

If you’re a stay at home mom, don’t underestimate your position by saying, “I’m just a stay at home mom.” That is a huge responsibility in itself and can be harder than most  9 to 5 jobs.

Be grateful and thankful for every gift you are given. It’s all in perspective.

Look for the Hope through those experiences; have faith you will get through it all and love everyone from your heart, even if you have to pray for those difficult to love.

It’s all in Perspective.

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