It's Always Been You.

It's Always Been You.

By Rachel MonicaEducationSelf-Improvement
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It's Always Been You. episodes

  • How to Believe Healthy Love Is Real in a World of Toxic Men

    In today’s episode, “How to Believe Healthy Love Is Real in a World of Toxic Men,” I’m talking about something I know so many women struggle with: believing that the kind of love you actually want is still possible when the world seems to give you endless proof that it isn’t.

    Because when you constantly hear stories about cheating, emotional unavailability, narcissism, abuse, betrayal, and relationships falling apart, it can start to feel safer to assume that healthy love simply doesn’t exist.

    But what if the problem isn’t that healthy love is rare?

    What if you’ve just been exposed to so much of the wrong kind of love that you’ve started using other people’s experiences as evidence for your own future?

    We talk about:

    • Why other people’s relationship stories are not a prediction of yours
    • The difference between discernment and fear
    • How self-trust changes the way you date
    • Why healthy love can initially feel unfamiliar or even “boring”
    • How to stay soft and open while still having standards and boundaries
    • Why you’re allowed to believe good men exist
    • The role your beliefs play in what you notice, tolerate, choose, and receive
    • How to stop consuming relationship content that constantly reinforces fear


    💗 Want support creating the healthy, secure love you’ve always desired?

    Book a 1:1 Love Audit with me and we’ll uncover the patterns, beliefs, standards, and choices that may be keeping you from experiencing love differently—and identify the shifts that will help you choose, receive, and create the relationship you actually want.

    Let's connect:

    💗 Email: [email protected]

    💗 Personal Instagram: @rachelmonica.c

    💗 Work With Me: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac

    25 min
  • Remember Who TF You Are: Women, Power & the Patriarchy

    In today’s episode, “Remember Who TF You Are: Women, Power & the Patriarchy,” I’m having one of the most important conversations we need to have.

    Because before we can reclaim our power, we have to understand what taught us to give it away.

    I’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to be a woman in this world, the history we've inherited, the systems that have shaped us, and how much of that conditioning is still alive in us today.

    And honestly?

    I’m angry.

    But I don't think anger is something women should be ashamed of.

    I think sometimes anger is the part of us that knows something isn't right.

    In this episode, we're going deep into the history of women, the suppression of female autonomy, the ways women’s knowledge, power, independence, and voices have been controlled throughout history, and how those patterns have shaped the world we live in today.

    We’re talking about witch trials, women's relationship to property and independence, religion, patriarchy, and the ways systems built around male authority have influenced generations of women.

    But this isn't an episode about hating men.

    It's an episode about waking up.

    Because I believe we can acknowledge the ways women have been harmed without believing that all men are the enemy.

    We can demand accountability while still believing good men exist.

    We can be angry about injustice while still believing in love.

    We can recognize the shadow without becoming consumed by it.

    And most importantly, we can look at all of this without allowing it to convince us that we are powerless.

    We talk about:

    • Why understanding women's history is so important to understanding the world we live in today
    • How women's knowledge, independence, property, and autonomy have historically been controlled and restricted
    • The complicated history behind witch trials and the women who were accused of witchcraft
    • How patriarchal systems have influenced women's roles, rights, and freedoms across generations
    • Why we cannot heal wounds that we refuse to acknowledge
    • Why anger can be information rather than something we need to immediately suppress
    • The difference between acknowledging systems of oppression and becoming consumed by hatred
    • How women can demand accountability while still believing in healthy masculine energy and healthy relationships
    • What it means to remember the sacredness and power within womanhood
    • Why I believe women have a deeply divine and godly nature
    • Why your power doesn't come from being better than men, but from remembering who you are
    • Why healing requires us to face the shadow instead of covering it with a spiritual Band-Aid
    • Why remembering our history can be part of breaking the cycles we continue to carry

    💗 Want to create the healthy, secure love you’ve always desired?

    Book a 1:1 Love Audit with me and we’ll uncover exactly what’s keeping you from experiencing the relationship you want and identify the shifts you need to make to start choosing, receiving, and creating love differently.

    Let's connect:

    💗 Email: [email protected]

    💗 Personal Instagram: @rachelmonica.c

    💗 Work With Me: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac

    26 min
  • How to Get Everything You Want (The 7 Day Dream Life Challenge)

    In today’s episode, “How to Get Everything You Want (The 7 Day Dream Life Challenge),” I’m doing something a little different…

    I don't want you to spend another week wondering when the life you want is finally going to happen.

    I don't want you obsessing over your manifestations, checking for signs, questioning whether you're “aligned enough,” or constantly wondering what you need to do to make everything happen faster.

    Because every time I finally receive something I wanted for so long, I look back and think…

    “Why did I worry about this so much?”

    And I don't want you to spend your life waiting for your life to begin.

    So in this episode, I'm giving you a 7-day challenge designed to help you get clear on what you actually want, start embodying the version of you who already lives that reality, and practice letting go of the desperate need to control exactly how or when it arrives.

    And we're doing it together.

    For the next seven days, I want you to stop waiting for your dream life and practice living like you're already on your way there.

    We talk about:

    ✨ Why we spend so much time worrying about things that eventually work themselves out
    ✨ The biggest thing keeping you from surrendering and trusting your own unfolding
    ✨ How to use imagination and “playing pretend” to become familiar with the reality you're creating
    ✨ How scripting your life as if you're already living it can shift the way you think and feel
    ✨ Why gratitude for what you're calling in can feel completely different from desperately wanting it
    ✨ How subconscious reprogramming before sleep can reinforce the identity you're stepping into
    ✨ How to recognize that things can be moving for you even when you can't see the final result yet
    ✨ Why the lessons, endings, opportunities, and experiences along the way may actually be part of the manifestation
    ✨ How to stop waiting for your life to start and actually live it now


    💗 Want to create the healthy, secure love you’ve always desired?

    Book a 1:1 Love Audit with me and we’ll uncover exactly what’s keeping you from experiencing the relationship you want and identify the shifts you need to make to start choosing, receiving, and creating love differently.

    Let's connect:

    💗 Email: [email protected]

    💗 Personal Instagram: @rachelmonica.c

    💗 Work With Me: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac

    28 min
  • If You’re Scared You’ll Never Find Love, Listen to This

    In today’s episode, “If You’re Scared You’ll Never Find Love, Listen to This,” I’m talking directly to the woman who secretly wonders…

    “What if it never happens for me?”

    Maybe you’re watching your friends get engaged, married, and start families.

    Maybe you’ve been through relationships that taught you what you don’t want.

    Maybe you’ve done so much healing, raised your standards, and become so much more self-aware…

    But you still haven’t met your person.

    And sometimes, even when you genuinely love your life, that little voice can still creep in:

    “Am I behind?”

    “Did I miss my chance?”

    “What if I never find him?”

    I want to completely challenge the idea that you are late, behind, or running out of time.

    What if everything you’ve experienced so far has been preparing you for the kind of relationship you actually want?

    We’re talking about why your late twenties and thirties can be such a powerful time to find love, how much we change throughout our twenties and into adulthood, and why becoming more self-aware, emotionally mature, and clear on what you want can actually change the way you choose a partner.


    We talk about:

    ✨ Why being single at 28, 30, 32, or beyond does NOT mean you're behind
    ✨ Why your past relationships and dating experiences were not wasted
    ✨ Why urgency can cause you to choose from fear instead of desire
    ✨ The danger of letting your age pressure you into the wrong relationship
    ✨ Why your relationship status is never a measurement of your worth
    ✨ How to trust your own timeline instead of comparing your love story to everyone else's
    ✨ The spiritual perspective of divine timing and your unique path
    ✨ Why the work you’re doing on yourself now may be preparing you for the relationship you desire
    ✨ How to stay open to love while continuing to fully live your life
    ✨ Why you may be so much closer to the relationship you want than you realize


    💗 Want to create the healthy, secure love you’ve always desired?

    Book a 1:1 Love Audit with me and we’ll uncover exactly what’s keeping you from experiencing the relationship you want and identify the shifts you need to make to start choosing, receiving, and creating love differently.

    Let’s connect:

    💗 Email: [email protected]

    💗 Personal Instagram: @rachelmonica.c

    💗 Work With Me: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac

    21 min
  • What Your Love Life Reveals About Your Self-Awareness

    In today’s episode, “What Your Love Life Reveals About Your Self-Awareness,” I’m talking about something I think so many women think they have mastered…

    Self-awareness.

    Because you can know your attachment style.

    Know your triggers.

    Know your patterns.

    Know exactly what your ex did wrong.

    And still not actually be as self-aware as you think you are.

    In fact, one of the biggest things I’ve been realizing is that so many women are incredibly aware of their flaws…

    But completely unaware of their strengths.

    We’re so quick to identify what’s wrong with us, what we need to heal, what we need to fix, and where we’re falling short — but how often do you actually stop and recognize who you are, what you bring to the table, how much you’ve grown, and what is already working within you?

    In this episode, we’re going deeper than simply asking, “Do I love myself?”

    We’re asking:

    Do I actually know myself?

    Because self-love without self-awareness can become another story we tell ourselves.

    We talk about:

    • What self-awareness actually means and why knowing your flaws isn’t the same thing as being self-aware
    • How your dating patterns can reveal your blind spots
    • What the people you choose and what you tolerate can teach you about yourself
    • Why your standards aren’t what you say you deserve they’re what you’re willing to enforce
    • Why being rejected or not chosen can reveal so much about your relationship with yourself
    • Why you need to become just as aware of your strengths, beauty, resilience, and growth as you are of your flaws
    • Why the goal isn't to become perfect, it's to become honest with yourself


    💗 Want to understand what’s really happening in your love life?

    Book a 1:1 Love Audit with me and we’ll take a deeper look at your patterns, standards, self-concept, dating choices, and the relationship you’re creating — so you can finally see what you may not be able to see from inside of it.

    Let’s uncover what’s actually keeping you from experiencing the love you want and identify the shifts you need to start choosing, receiving, and creating love differently.


    Let’s connect:

    💗 Email: [email protected]

    💗 Personal Instagram: @rachelmonica.c

    💗 Work With Me: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac

    22 min
  • Why You’re Not Seeing Results Yet (Manifestation Isn’t Enough)

    In today’s episode, “Why You’re Not Seeing Results Yet (Manifestation Isn’t Enough),” I’m talking about one of the biggest things I’ve realized about creating the life you want…

    You can’t just envision the life. You have to participate in creating it.

    Because we’re living in a time where manifestation is everywhere.

    And I believe in all of that.

    But there’s another side to creation that we don’t talk about enough…

    Action.

    We’re talking about the balance between the feminine and masculine in conscious creation — the feminine energy of receiving, trusting, envisioning, embodying, and allowing, alongside the masculine energy of taking action, creating structure, staying disciplined, and turning what you envision into something tangible.

    We talk about:

    • The difference between energetically aligning with something and actually taking action toward it
    • Why the feminine and masculine are both necessary for conscious creation
    • How receiving, trusting, visualizing, and embodying work alongside discipline, structure, and action
    • Why you can manifest something without being perfectly healed or having everything figured out
    • The importance of getting uncomfortable and doing the things your future self would do
    • Why knowing what to do isn't the same as actually implementing it
    • How consistency and discipline can become an act of self-trust
    • How to trust the universe while still doing your part



    💗 Want to create the healthy, secure love you’ve always desired?

    Book a 1:1 Love Audit with me and we’ll uncover exactly what’s keeping you from experiencing the relationship you want and identify the shifts you need to make to start choosing, receiving, and creating love differently.


    Let's connect:

    💗 Email: [email protected]

    💗 Personal Instagram: @rachelmonica.c

    💗 Work With Me: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac

    31 min
  • The Gap Period Between Toxic Love & Healthy Love

    In today’s episode, “The Gap Period Between Toxic Love & Healthy Love,” I’m talking about one of the most confusing and emotionally challenging seasons so many women experience…

    The space between knowing what you no longer want and finally experiencing what you do.

    Because leaving a toxic relationship is one thing.

    But what happens after?

    When you've raised your standards, started healing, walked away from old patterns, and know you don't want to go back…

    but you still haven't met your person.

    That in-between can feel lonely.

    It can make you question yourself, your timing, your worth, and even whether the relationship you desire is actually coming.

    I share my own experiences before meeting my partner, what I learned about trusting life, releasing control, becoming more secure within myself, and allowing love to unfold without trying to force the when, where, or how.

    We talk about:

    •  The difference between desiring love and desperately waiting for it 
    •  How to stop making your single life a waiting room for your future relationship 
    •  How to trust divine timing without giving up on taking inspired action 
    •  Why you don't need to know when or how your person will arrive 
    •  How to use this season to rebuild self-trust, standards, boundaries, and your relationship with yourself 
    •  Why every relationship and experience can give you valuable information about what you truly desire 
    •  Why the work you do before meeting your person creates the foundation for the relationship you eventually build 


    💗 Want to create the healthy, secure love you’ve always desired?

    Book a 1:1 Love Audit with me and we’ll uncover exactly what’s keeping you from experiencing the relationship you want and identify the shifts you need to make to start choosing, receiving, and creating love differently.

    Let's connect:

    💗 Email: [email protected]

    💗 Personal Instagram: @rachelmonica.c

    💗 Work With Me: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac

    26 min
  • The Secret to Everything You Want

    In today’s episode, “The Secret to Everything You Want,” I’m diving into the realization that completely changed the way I see love, manifestation, confidence, success, purpose, and the life I’m creating…

    The answer has always been you.

    Because we spend so much of our lives looking outside of ourselves for the thing that will finally make everything click.

    The relationship.

    The money.

    The career.

    The validation.

    The confidence.

    The opportunity.

    The dream life.

    But what if the secret to creating everything you want isn’t about finding the perfect person, circumstance, strategy, or opportunity?

    What if it starts with the relationship you have with yourself?

    We’re talking about why your self-concept, beliefs, standards, actions, and the way you see yourself influence the reality you experience, and why becoming aligned with the version of you who can receive what you desire is so much more powerful than constantly chasing the thing itself.

    I share why I realized that this has actually been the message underneath everything I’ve talked about on this podcast, from attracting healthy love and building self-worth to manifestation, confidence, purpose, and creating your dream life.

    We talk about:

    • Why you are the common denominator in every area of your life
    • Why the relationship you have with yourself changes everything else
    • How your self-concept influences what you believe is possible for you
    • Why attracting the right relationship isn't about finding the perfect place to meet someone
    • The difference between chasing what you want and becoming available to receive it
    • Why confidence is built through self-trust, not perfection
    • How your standards, boundaries, and choices reflect what you believe you deserve
    • Why your past doesn't have to determine the person you become
    • How manifestation becomes more powerful when you focus on who you are being
    • Why you don't need to control every circumstance to create an incredible life
    • The deeper meaning behind my decision to rename this podcast from Becoming RICH to It’s Always Been You


    💗 Want to create the healthy, secure love you’ve always desired?

    Book a 1:1 Love Audit with me and we’ll uncover exactly what’s keeping you from experiencing the relationship you want and identify the shifts you need to make to start choosing, receiving, and creating love differently.

    Let's connect:

    💗 Email: [email protected]

    💗 Personal Instagram: @rachelmonica.c

    💗 Work With Me: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac

    20 min
  • Finding Your Soul Purpose (Without the Pressure)

    In today’s episode, “Finding Your Soul Purpose (Without the Pressure),” I’m diving into one of the biggest fears so many of us carry…

    “What if I never figure out what I’m meant to do with my life?”

    Because somewhere along the way, we were sold the idea that by twenty-one, twenty-five, or thirty, we should have everything mapped out, our career, our purpose, our relationships, and our future.

    But what if life was never meant to work that way?

    What if every job, every heartbreak, every unexpected detour, and every season of uncertainty was actually guiding you exactly where you’re meant to go?

    We’re talking about the pressure to “find your purpose,” why feeling lost doesn’t mean you’re on the wrong path, and how some of the most meaningful parts of your journey are being built long before you understand where they’re leading.

    I share my own experiences moving through different chapters of life, the lessons hidden within the things that didn’t work out, and why I no longer believe that any experience is ever truly wasted.

    We talk about:

    - Why society’s timeline for success and purpose doesn’t make sense

    - How every job, relationship, and experience is shaping who you’re becoming

    - Why feeling lost is often a sign that you’re growing, not failing

    - The pressure to have your whole life figured out (and why you don’t need to)

    - How your soul purpose evolves as you evolve

    - Why the things that excite you are often clues pointing you in the right direction

    - The importance of creating space to hear your intuition

    - How meditation, journaling, and self-reflection can help guide your next steps

    - Questions to ask yourself if you feel disconnected from your purpose

    - Why you don’t have to know the entire path to trust where life is taking you


    💗 Want to create the healthy, secure love you’ve always desired?
    Book a 1:1 Love Audit with me and we’ll uncover exactly what’s keeping you from experiencing the relationship you want and identify the shifts you need to make to start choosing, receiving, and creating love differently.


    Let's connect:

    💗 Email: [email protected]

    💗 Personal Instagram: @rachelmonica.c

    💗 Work With Me: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac

    23 min
  • You Are the Universe Experiencing Itself: The Truth About Manifestation

    In today’s episode, “You Are the Universe Experiencing Itself: The Truth About Manifestation,” I’m diving into manifestation from a much deeper perspective than the one we usually hear online.

    Because manifestation isn’t just about vision boards, affirmations, or trying to attract something that exists outside of you.

    What if the things you desire aren’t separate from you at all?

    What if the love, abundance, freedom, and experiences you crave are already woven into the fabric of who you are?

    We’re talking about consciousness, oneness, and the illusion of separation and how understanding your connection to Source, God, and the universe can completely transform the way you approach manifestation and conscious creation.

    I share my thoughts on why the people, challenges, and relationships in your life may be serving a much greater purpose than you realize, and how every experience is helping shape, expand, and evolve you into the person you’re meant to become.

    We talk about:

    ✨ Why separation may be one of the greatest illusions we experience

    ✨ What it means to be an expression of Source, God, and the universe

    ✨ How every person in your life acts as a mirror for your growth and evolution

    ✨ Why the things you desire are not truly outside of you

    ✨ The deeper meaning of manifestation and conscious creation

    ✨ Why everything in existence carries its own frequency

    ✨ What it really means to become energetically aligned with the life you desire

    ✨ How to shift from chasing your manifestations to embodying them


    💗 Want to create the healthy, secure love you’ve always desired?
    Book a 1:1 Love Audit with me and we’ll uncover exactly what’s keeping you from experiencing the relationship you want and identify the shifts you need to make to start choosing, receiving, and creating love differently.


    Let's connect:

    💗 Email: [email protected]

    💗 Personal Instagram: @rachelmonica.c

    💗 Work With Me: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac


    33 min

About It's Always Been You.

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Welcome to It’s Always Been You, a space for exploring love, relationships, consciousness, manifestation, and healing.


I’m Rachel Monica, and this podcast is about…