In this reflection I posit that conjunctions help to give nuance. Centering much of this conversation around race, gender and personality, I challenge the listener to consider deeper ways to know people beyond the obvious. Note: this reflection has a fair degree of disjointedness in that I fell into a few exciting rabbit holes. All the same, I was able to bring them together for one consideration around the nuance that can be derived from the words "but" and "and". An assignment is given at the end and will be posted on my website: yournidom.wordpress.com.