Both nature and nurture make us who we are. By nature I mean our genetic makeup. By nurture I mean the social environment we were raised in that helped us form our self-concepts, our self-esteem. In a way we are what our genes programmed us to be and what our environment socially engineered us to be. So it's not our fault. HOWEVER... that was then. This is now. Before it wasn't a choice. Now it is. We can accept the hand we've been dealt or re-define ourselves. And if we don't try to do that we really have no one to blame but ourselves.