People experience different things during their life; some good and some bad. Everything we experience shapes who we are as people. Those experiences manifests within us differently. Society will try to tell you there is only one way an experience can affect you. It seems as if we have been conditioned to think we must be a certain way if we have had certain experiences. The fact is, it's okay to be okay, because of or despite what you have experienced. It's okay to have the experience, acknowledge it, accept it, use it as a learning tool, and then move the hell forward; as a complete human who has experienced some stuff, but is okay.