Who is really in control? Behind the scenes there stands one unseen, who is prompting you to desire full control within your marriage. Do not be fooled. Every time you demand and compel your spouse to do as you say, to act as you want them to act, and to think your thoughts, you are doing the devil's work. Do destroy your marriage by being arbitrary and despotic. Recognize and appreciate your spouses for who they are and allow them to be comfortable in your presence.