"The reality is we're not happy and fine all the time." Jacob Tobia talks about anti-femme sentiments in the queer community, how masculinity operates as a cycle of abuse, and why a person's under no obligation to share their trauma.

They also talk about their new memoir, Sissy: A Coming of Gender Story.

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