What happens after the heartbreak — when you quietly promise yourself “Never again”?
You build the walls. You get strong. You learn to keep people at a safe distance.
But what if that vow to protect yourself is also what’s keeping real love from finding you?

In this episode, Tina Shayani explores the hidden cost of emotional self-protection — how the walls you build to avoid pain can also keep out the connection and depth you’re longing for.
You’ll learn how to open your heart again without losing yourself, how to separate fear from wisdom, and how to turn your pain into power.

🔑 Key Points

• The “Never again” vow: how pain quietly shapes your beliefs about love.

• Why emotional walls don’t just keep people out — they keep you stuck.

• How avoiding vulnerability limits your ability to experience real joy.

• The difference between discernment and defensiveness.

• Why rejection isn’t rejection — it’s redirection.

• How to reopen your heart without repeating old mistakes.

• The quiet courage of trying again, even when your heart remembers the pain.

• You can’t protect yourself from heartbreak and still expect to feel deep love.

• Pain is inevitable — suffering is optional.

• Real strength isn’t in avoiding pain; it’s in walking through it with grace.

• You are not being rejected by life — you’re being redirected toward what fits.

• Vulnerability is not weakness. It’s the doorway to connection.

🌺Listener Takeaways

You can’t protect yourself from heartbreak and still expect to feel deep love.

You can’t build a healthy relationship by trying to fix someone.
In this episode, Tina Shayani breaks down why caring, capable people keep falling for “projects” — and how to finally stop confusing potential with partnership.

In This Episode:

• Why smart, loving people get trapped in “project relationships.”

• How movies and fairy tales taught us to confuse love with saving.

• The difference between inspiration and rescue.

• What “dating a promise instead of a person” looks like.

• Two real stories (Sarah & Eliana) and what finally helped them stop repeating the same pattern.

Key Takeaways:

1. You can’t heal someone through love — they have to want to change.

2. If it’s inconsistent now, it won’t magically fix itself later.

3. You’re not in love with them — you’re in love with their potential.

4. A promise can’t love you back.

5. Real love is partnership, not a project.

Chapters:
00:00 – Intro: Building Love That Lasts
00:36 – The “Fixer-Upper” Relationship Pattern
02:45 – Why We Fall for Projects
07:10 – The Danger of Falling for Potential
11:15 – Sarah’s Story: Loving from Survival, Not Wholeness
17:10 – Eliana’s Story: Chemistry vs. Anxiety
21:15 – The Wake-Up Moment: Awareness Is Power
23:40 – The Shift from Fantasy to Reality
27:00 – How to Stop Choosing Fixer-Uppers

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In this episode of Journey to Lasting Love, host Tina Shayani explores the complexities of relationship standards, addressing the common dilemma of whether individuals are asking for too much or not enough in their romantic pursuits. She emphasizes the importance of having personal standards while cautioning against using them as a defense mechanism to avoid vulnerability. The conversation delves into the balance between giving potential partners a chance and recognizing deal-breakers, ultimately guiding listeners towards a path of self-awareness and successful relationships.

Takeaways

Standards are your rights and preferences in relationships.

It's crucial to know what you want in a partner.

Using standards as a defense mechanism can hinder relationships.

Give people a chance to surprise you.

Don't linger in relationships that don't meet your standards.

Identify which category you fall into regarding relationship standards.

Self-knowledge is key to navigating relationships successfully.

Let go of those who are not meant for you.

The journey to finding the right partner involves sorting through many options.

Building a successful relationship requires ongoing effort and commitment.

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In this episode of Journey to Lasting Love, host Tina Shayani explores the reasons why individuals often attract the wrong partners in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, the power of beliefs, and the role of hope in overcoming negative experiences. Through understanding attraction patterns and learning from past relationships, listeners are encouraged to shift their mindset and focus on personal growth to create healthier connections.

Takeaways

Attraction patterns often stem from our beliefs and focus.

Self-awareness is crucial in recognizing negative patterns.

Negative experiences can teach valuable lessons about what we want.

Hope is essential for resilience in relationships.

We have the power to change our point of attraction.

Beliefs shape our reality and experiences in love.

Awareness of subconscious beliefs can lead to personal growth.

Every relationship serves a purpose in our journey.

Empowerment comes from recognizing our own strength.

Learning from past mistakes helps us move forward.

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In this episode, Tina Shayani discusses the emotional pain associated with breakups and offers guidance on how to navigate the healing process. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging the pain, implementing a no contact rule, letting go of fantasies about the relationship, finding support, and learning from the experience to foster personal growth.

Takeaways

The pain of a breakup is real and excruciating.

You can survive the pain of a breakup.

Going no contact is crucial for healing.

Letting go of the relationship is difficult but necessary.

Understanding the source of pain helps in the healing process.

You must sever ties completely to heal effectively.

It's normal to grieve the loss of a future you imagined with the person.

Love alone is not enough to sustain a relationship.

Breakups can lead to personal growth and learning.

You have the power to heal and move forward.

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In this episode of Journey to Lasting Love, host Tina Shayani discusses the complexities of relationships, focusing on the critical decision of whether to stay or walk away. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing deal breakers in both boyfriend-girlfriend dynamics and marriages, highlighting the need for respectful communication and the power of kindness in conflict resolution. The conversation provides insights into navigating relationship challenges and making informed decisions about love and commitment.TakeawaysRelationships should be wonderful and amazing.The boyfriend-girlfriend stage is a discovery period.Walking away from a bad relationship is not a failure.Inattention can lead to the death of a relationship.Marriages are not transactional; they require mutual growth.You can choose your reaction in difficult situations.You have the power to create change in your relationship.Proper tools and guidance can improve relationships.Decide on deal breakers before deepening commitment.There is a way to end relationships with kindness.BIOHi, I'm Tina Shayani, founder of TShay Coaching. For over 5 years, I've been guiding women like you on their journey to find authentic, lasting love.I understand the frustration of searching for that special someone. I was once there too – yearning for a deep connection, but feeling stuck. Through years of personal growth and learning from both successes and setbacks, I developed proven strategies to attract and build fulfilling relationships.Now happily married to a wonderful family, I'm passionate about helping you create a love life rooted in self-love, confidence, and clarity. My coaching combines practical tools, heartfelt conversations, and a deep understanding of universal laws to help you find the love and happiness you deserve.

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In this conversation, Tina Shayani discusses the essential elements of building lasting relationships. She emphasizes the importance of understanding the difference between temporary infatuation and lasting love, highlighting respect, shared values, and the significance of navigating deal breakers. Tina encourages listeners to view dating as a journey of self-discovery and to commit to relationships with intention and focus. She concludes by stressing the importance of choosing partners who foster personal growth and the need to let go of relationships that do not serve one's long-term happiness.TakeawaysUnderstanding the difference between lasting love and temporary infatuation is crucial.The initial excitement in relationships is not meant to last forever.Respect is a fundamental component of a lasting relationship.Navigating deal breakers is essential for personal growth in dating.Each relationship teaches valuable lessons about oneself and what one desires.Commitment requires focus and effort from both partners.Building a relationship is a collaborative process between partners.Letting go of unfulfilling relationships opens the door for better opportunities.Choosing a partner should be about mutual growth and shared values.Settling in relationships can lead to long-term dissatisfaction.BIOHi, I'm Tina Shayani, founder of TShay Coaching. For over 5 years, I've been guiding women like you on their journey to find authentic, lasting love.I understand the frustration of searching for that special someone. I was once there too – yearning for a deep connection, but feeling stuck. Through years of personal growth and learning from both successes and setbacks, I developed proven strategies to attract and build fulfilling relationships.Now happily married to a wonderful family, I'm passionate about helping you create a love life rooted in self-love, confidence, and clarity. My coaching combines practical tools, heartfelt conversations, and a deep understanding of universal laws to help you find the love and happiness you deserve.🌟 Stay Connected & Transform Your Love Life! 🌟

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In this episode, Tina Shayani discusses the importance of making decisions in relationships and life. She emphasizes that the only wrong decision is inaction and encourages listeners to take responsibility for their choices. By committing to decisions and taking action, individuals can create momentum in their lives and move towards their goals. The conversation also touches on the significance of choosing the right partner and the fallacy of perfection in decision-making.Takeaways:Making decisions is crucial for personal growth.Inaction is the only wrong decision.Commit to your choices and move forward.Perfection in decision-making is a myth.Every experience is a step towards your goal.You have the power to shape your life.Don't let fear dictate your choices.Take small steps towards your goals.Your partner should enhance your life.Life is about progress, not perfection.BIOHi, I'm Tina Shayani, founder of TShay Coaching. For over 5 years, I've been guiding women like you on their journey to find authentic, lasting love.I understand the frustration of searching for that special someone. I was once there too – yearning for a deep connection, but feeling stuck. Through years of personal growth and learning from both successes and setbacks, I developed proven strategies to attract and build fulfilling relationships.Now happily married to a wonderful family, I'm passionate about helping you create a love life rooted in self-love, confidence, and clarity. My coaching combines practical tools, heartfelt conversations, and a deep understanding of universal laws to help you find the love and happiness you deserve.🌟 Stay Connected & Transform Your Love Life! 🌟

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In this episode of Journey to Lasting Love, host Tina Shayani discusses the essential qualities that make individuals irresistible to others. She emphasizes the importance of authenticity, genuine listening, and graciously accepting compliments. Through practical advice and personal anecdotes, Tina encourages listeners to engage more meaningfully in their relationships and to cultivate a positive presence in their interactions.Takeaways:Coaching can lead to rapid breakthroughs in personal growth.Authenticity is key to attracting others.A simple smile can significantly improve interactions.Listening with genuine curiosity fosters deeper connections.Compliments should be accepted graciously as gifts.Paying attention to others enhances relationship quality.Living consciously helps avoid autopilot behavior.People enjoy talking about themselves; listen actively.Compliments should not be deflected or diminished.Small actions can have a profound impact on relationships.BIOHi, I'm Tina Shayani, founder of TShay Coaching. For over 5 years, I've been guiding women like you on their journey to find authentic, lasting love.I understand the frustration of searching for that special someone. I was once there too – yearning for a deep connection, but feeling stuck. Through years of personal growth and learning from both successes and setbacks, I developed proven strategies to attract and build fulfilling relationships.Now happily married to a wonderful family, I'm passionate about helping you create a love life rooted in self-love, confidence, and clarity. My coaching combines practical tools, heartfelt conversations, and a deep understanding of universal laws to help you find the love and happiness you deserve.🌟 Stay Connected & Transform Your Love Life! 🌟

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In this episode of Journey to Lasting Love, Tina Shayani discusses the importance of recognizing and seizing life-changing opportunities. She emphasizes that opportunities are often subtle and require awareness to identify. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, she encourages listeners to overcome excuses, embrace imperfection, and actively seek out experiences that enrich their lives. The conversation highlights the power of taking action and the positive impact of a proactive mindset on personal relationships and happiness.Takeaways:Life is filled with opportunities every day.Being aware of opportunities is crucial for growth.Don't let excuses hold you back from experiences.Seizing opportunities can create lasting memories.Perfectionism can prevent you from taking action.You have the power to change your circumstances.Happy people attract other happy people.Recognize the difference between opportunities and settling.Take small steps towards your goals every day.Embrace the imperfect nature of life and opportunities.BIOHi, I'm Tina Shayani, founder of TShay Coaching. For over 5 years, I've been guiding women like you on their journey to find authentic, lasting love.I understand the frustration of searching for that special someone. I was once there too – yearning for a deep connection, but feeling stuck. Through years of personal growth and learning from both successes and setbacks, I developed proven strategies to attract and build fulfilling relationships.Now happily married to a wonderful family, I'm passionate about helping you create a love life rooted in self-love, confidence, and clarity. My coaching combines practical tools, heartfelt conversations, and a deep understanding of universal laws to help you find the love and happiness you deserve.🌟 Stay Connected & Transform Your Love Life! 🌟

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