Paul's third key to joy is vulnerability—opening his heart to others and expressing affection despite being a driven, Type A personality. Risley challenges the notion of being "not an emotional person," arguing everyone can grow in expressing care, and notes that difficulties in relationships often stem from not being sacrificial enough rather than the other person's failures. She addresses the pain of losing friends through death or spiritual drift, recommending the paper "Cultivating a Tender Heart," and emphasizes that serving difficult people makes them easier to love—not because they change, but because we do when we step into sacrificial love empowered by Christ's affection.To read the essay mentioned, please visit https://www.dwellcc.org/essays/cultivating-tender-heart Speaker: Chris Risley