On a very special episode of Now That We're Friends, our new friend Juanita is fighting with family over political differences. She asks Caroline, Anne and Gale for advice on how to find peace and perspective when surrounded by conflict. Gale has an imaginary argument about shrimp. Caro talks about the burn out that comes with anger. Anne has a moment of uncertainty that leads to her expressing her love of watching Kevin Bacon dance out his frustrations in an abandoned warehouse. There's also plenty of tips on how to deal with family about differing ideologies, including watching unifying shows like Parks and Recreation, arguing alone in the shower and making up songs to the tune of "Love Shack". They also try to come up with a way to hack Queer Eye. 

If all else fails, there's always stepping out into a field somewhere and avoiding responsibility. But while you're there, you might as well check out...

Juanita's "political strategy":

“I Never Figured How to Get Free” by Donika Kelly (poem) Gale

“An Atlas of the Difficult World” by Adrienne Rich (poetry book) “What Kind Of Times Are These” (poem) Anne

“The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao”by Junot Díaz (book) Caroline

“Island Born” by Junot Díaz (book) Caroline

“Dreaming in Cuban” by Cristina García (novel) Caroline

“Hubble Photographs After Sappho” Adrienne Rich (poem) Gale

“Don't Sweat the Small Stuff and It's All Small Stuff: Simple Ways to Keep the Little Things from Taking Over Your Life” by Richard Carlson(book) Anne

Wildlife conservation and the art of letting go | Geraldine Morelli | TEDxWandsworth (Ted Talk) Gale

Two Dope Queens (podcast) Caroline

Parks And Recreation (tv show) Gale

“Hope in the Dark” by Rebecca Solnit (book) Gale

So Many White Guys (podcast) Caroline

American Sonnets for My Past and Future Assassin by Terrance Hayes (book) Anne

The Bees Make Money in the Lion by Lo Kwa Mei-en (book) Caroline “The Alien Crown”

King Me by Roger Reeves (book) “Southern Charm” Caroline

Antibalas (Band) Caroline

“Borderline (An Ode to Self Care)" by Solange Knowles (song) Gale

“Didn't Cha Know” by Erykah Badu (song and music video) Gale

Accomplish a small task. Caroline

30 Rock “Retreat to Move Forward” S3 E9 (tv show) Caroline

Buying or donating something in someone's name. Gale

Footloose (movie) Anne

Queer Eye (tv show) Caroline

The Carrying: Poems by Ada Limón (book) Gale