Judging blocks your happiness. If you want a happier, more joyful life, you will want to learn how to unwind all of your judgments.  

In this episode, Matt O’Neill shares his key takeaways from Marianne Williamson’s best-selling book "Everyday Grace." He explores how to get rid of judgment, be patient with where you are now, and ask God for help.  

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

[01:58] Stop Judging 

You can’t be judgmental and happy at the same time. Judging other people blocks your light in the world. Every judgment comes from a place of sadness and fear.  When we’re at our worst, we’d also like to receive compassion, forgiveness and empathy from others. Pray to God and wait for three days. It took for Jesus three days to rise from the grave. It may take three days for your thoughts to be resurrected. After that, your judgment will soften. 

[23:13] Ask Help From God 

God loves you so much that He will not interfere with your will unless you ask Him to. He gives us total freedom to make even the worst mistakes. He only will help if you ask — so start asking. If you feel the judgment, hatred or hurt, know that He loves you and will help you  with whatever you ask. 

[28:15] Letting Go 

Place all your decisions in the hands of God. God dwells in eternity and He knows the past, present, and future.  Every single thing is happening for your benefit. You can learn even during the bad times. Just ask God to guide your actions and thoughts. 

[36:25] Finding Peace Within Yourself 

We can be extremely critical of ourselves. Learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes because God has already forgiven you. When you’re in conflict with someone, you can either be right or you can be happy. But you can't be both. If you want happiness, peace and joy, stop trying to be right all the time. 

Notable quotes:  

[06:04] — [06:08] “In that state, where I’m at my very worst, what I would really want from someone else is to have grace on me.” -Matt 

[07:05] — [06:08]  “When we heal that sadness, we get to heal the judgments.” -Matt 

[10:53] — [10:58] “When you’re giving, you feel great. And when you’re judging, you feel awful.” -Matt 

[16:54] —[16:59]  “God’s will for you is your highest, most happy, most joyful, most peaceful self.” -Matt 

Resources Mentioned: 

Everyday Grace: Having Hope, Finding Forgiveness, and Making Miracles by Marianne Williamson 

The Good Mood Show Episode 13: Pray Everyday 

Tony Robbins’ Priming 

Financial Peace by Dave Ramsey