What’s more important than safety? Our mind is conditioned to believe, “Nothing is more important than safety.” If you have experienced trauma, safety feels especially paramount. But when safety is the goal, we miss out on wholistic wellness. Every human being has needs. We need nutrition to stay alive and we are also social creatures with emotional needs. From the moment we are born and throughout our lifespan, our emotional needs change. Our needs don’t change randomly; they change developmentally. Just like there is a cycle of physical growth, there is a cycle of emotional development.