In this deeply honest episode of Just a Farm Wife, Tara sits down with narcissistic abuse coach Kyle Miller for a conversation about emotional abuse, gaslighting, trauma, people pleasing, and what happens when you spend your entire life carrying everyone else.
Kyle shares how he spent 14 years in an abusive relationship believing he was the problem — believing he lacked empathy, caused the conflict, and simply needed to “do better.” Together, Tara and Kyle unpack why victims of narcissistic abuse often feel crazy, why so many empathetic people end up in toxic relationships, and how childhood trauma can shape the relationships we accept as adults.
This episode goes far beyond relationships. It’s about:
✨ losing yourself trying to keep the peace
✨ burnout from overgiving
✨ why healthy love can feel uncomfortable
✨ boundaries, self-worth & nervous system healing
✨ learning to trust yourself again
If you’ve ever felt like:
* you’re carrying everything alone
* no one sees how exhausted you are
* you keep attracting emotionally unhealthy people
* calm feels unsafe
* you’re always blamed for everything
…this conversation will hit home.
00:40 Meet Kyle Miller
02:15 Why Most Victims Think They’re the Problem
06:50 What Narcissistic Abuse Actually Feels Like
12:45 Gaslighting & Emotional Manipulation
18:30 Childhood Trauma & Toxic Relationship Patterns
25:40 Why Empathetic People Get Targeted
31:20 The Cycle of Overgiving & Burnout
38:15 Why Healthy Relationships Feel Unsafe
44:30 Boundaries, Healing & Self-Worth
51:10 Healing Isn’t Linear
56:20 Finding Safe Support & Help
💛 Healing starts when you stop abandoning yourself to keep everyone else comfortable.
Follow along, explore resources, and connect with Kyle Miller:
Website: https://kylemillercoaching.com/
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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Kylemillercoaching
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Website: https://www.tara-emerson.com/
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