In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew explore the topic of hustling for your self-worth with viral sensation from his food reaction videos, host of Cakealikes, and star of the Ellen Show, the hilarious Kalen Allen. Alec and Matt explore our tendency to tie our worth as a person to work and achievement. Both Matt and Alec open up about ending up depressed and depleted when they grasp for things outside of themselves to make them feel worthy.  

Kalen Allen shares that he has been a workaholic ever since he can remember. Kalen explores how trying to earn his mom’s love through his achievements and struggling with a lack of belonging as a black gay man contributed to his need to push himself so relentlessly. The three talk openly and laugh a lot about how Kalen became a viral sensation, toxic masculinity, generational trauma, the moment Kalen ended up in the fetal position on the floor of his bathroom, taking time to just be, and why Kalen feels such a strong need to be a role model for future young, black queer men.  

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