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Kartika Alexandra on Relationship Issues, Attraction, and How to Build Healthy Relationships.
I initially wanted to create a podcast interview to discuss the topic of managing relationships and avoiding conflicts during the Covid19 confinement period. But then I decided to make the conversation more generic and talk about what makes relationships successful because I believe that the importance of having healthy relationships goes beyond the confinement time. Being in locked dow only bring the issues back to the surface, now that you have nowhere to hide.
In this conversation, Kartika and I talk about the law of attraction, the honeymoon phase, the issues, selecting the right partner, how not to bring the past to the present, how to resolve conflicts and how not to keep repeating the same old patterns by selecting/attracting the same type of partners.
Kartika Alexandra holds a degree in psychology and works as a hypnotherapist. She is also the owner and founder of Holistic Healing Hypnosis. A top-rated therapy center in Bali, Indonesia providing personalized profound therapy session, face to face and remote. I reached out to her a little while ago, when I was going through some challenging times and found her services very helpful. In a previous podcast, we discussed the power of the subconscious mind, and we dived into the "behind the scenes" of our attitudes, actions, and behaviors. That interview was one of my most recent popular ones, and if you haven't listened to it yet, please feel free to go back to episode 23 and tune in.
RELATIONSHIP ISSUES
The topic of relationships is so complex yet very interesting and exciting. And even though we covered a lot during the 75 min of this conversation, I feel like we barely scratched the surface. There are a lot of great insights and learnings, and I wish these things were thought to us at an early age when we just started dating and before making our first moves into committed relationships. Perhaps then we would lower the 50%+ divorce rates and family shatterings.
One of the most common mistakes we all do is diving headfirst into what we believe is "true love," as it was pushed into us by our parents, culture, media, stories, and novels—leading us to naively believe or misunderstand love at first sight, soulmates, twin flames, and the happily ever after. When, in fact, and as you will find out in the conversations, things are a little less romantic than that. Our biochemistry, our energy levels, and our subconscious mind play a massive role in interpreting the messages we see through an often confused lens. We push our issues to our partners; we replicate our childhood models into our own families and tend to blame rather than take responsibility for our own actions, past experiences, and baggage.
Healthy relationships bring us the happiest moments in our lives, but at the same time, they can also create the most miserable experiences. These are really just opportunities for one to heal and release their past.
It is our lack of understanding of our own human nature that leads us to poor decision making. As Tony Robbins said, the two skills to master to create an ultimate relationship are Select and Connect. What "Selects" means is being able to choose the right partner. So what criteria are you using to select that person? Do you have a list of things that matter? Well, you know what, most of the time, your selection is going beyond your conscious choices. It is what's in your subconscious that is attracted to the subconscious of the person in front of you. Go back and reread this last one. It's that same subconscious that is making you win that relationship or lose it, which is why it is essential to get to know yourself.
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https://youtu.be/J5sMiW69-EU
Kartika Alexandra on Relationship Issues, Attraction, and How to Build Healthy Relationships.
I initially wanted to create a podcast interview to discuss the topic of managing relationships and avoiding conflicts during the Covid19 confinement period. But then I decided to make the conversation more generic and talk about what makes relationships successful because I believe that the importance of having healthy relationships goes beyond the confinement time. Being in locked dow only bring the issues back to the surface, now that you have nowhere to hide.
In this conversation, Kartika and I talk about the law of attraction, the honeymoon phase, the issues, selecting the right partner, how not to bring the past to the present, how to resolve conflicts and how not to keep repeating the same old patterns by selecting/attracting the same type of partners.
Kartika Alexandra holds a degree in psychology and works as a hypnotherapist. She is also the owner and founder of Holistic Healing Hypnosis. A top-rated therapy center in Bali, Indonesia providing personalized profound therapy session, face to face and remote. I reached out to her a little while ago, when I was going through some challenging times and found her services very helpful. In a previous podcast, we discussed the power of the subconscious mind, and we dived into the "behind the scenes" of our attitudes, actions, and behaviors. That interview was one of my most recent popular ones, and if you haven't listened to it yet, please feel free to go back to episode 23 and tune in.
RELATIONSHIP ISSUES
The topic of relationships is so complex yet very interesting and exciting. And even though we covered a lot during the 75 min of this conversation, I feel like we barely scratched the surface. There are a lot of great insights and learnings, and I wish these things were thought to us at an early age when we just started dating and before making our first moves into committed relationships. Perhaps then we would lower the 50%+ divorce rates and family shatterings.
One of the most common mistakes we all do is diving headfirst into what we believe is "true love," as it was pushed into us by our parents, culture, media, stories, and novels—leading us to naively believe or misunderstand love at first sight, soulmates, twin flames, and the happily ever after. When, in fact, and as you will find out in the conversations, things are a little less romantic than that. Our biochemistry, our energy levels, and our subconscious mind play a massive role in interpreting the messages we see through an often confused lens. We push our issues to our partners; we replicate our childhood models into our own families and tend to blame rather than take responsibility for our own actions, past experiences, and baggage.
Healthy relationships bring us the happiest moments in our lives, but at the same time, they can also create the most miserable experiences. These are really just opportunities for one to heal and release their past.
It is our lack of understanding of our own human nature that leads us to poor decision making. As Tony Robbins said, the two skills to master to create an ultimate relationship are Select and Connect. What "Selects" means is being able to choose the right partner. So what criteria are you using to select that person? Do you have a list of things that matter? Well, you know what, most of the time, your selection is going beyond your conscious choices. It is what's in your subconscious that is attracted to the subconscious of the person in front of you. Go back and reread this last one. It's that same subconscious that is making you win that relationship or lose it, which is why it is essential to get to know yourself.