The first time my daughter told me that she missed her grandma didn't happen until three months after my mom's passing and when it did I fell apart. It is a bitter sweet feeling in those moments. Bitter because their heart is hurting, and sweet because that person's memory is still alive and has not been forgotten. But how do you respond? Do you avoid it completely? Do you Sugarcoat it and make it seem like something it's not? We all handle conversations with our kids differently and there is not one correct way to handle them. In my opinion, Talking to your kids on a mature level about death (once age appropriate of course) can only better their chances of handling loosing us one day, or anyone for that matter in a better way. Whatever life skills we can instill in them now to prepare them for life without us one day...is crucial. If you can't Keep these convos completely sugar free... Maybe ease up a little on the sugar?