We tend to keep score with other people. We're okay doing stuff for others as long as others do stuff for us. And if we feel we've done more or given more, then we also feel we're owed something more so everything is even-steven. It's only right that everyone do their fair share. That's for sure. But having a rigid position is uncool. There are always exceptions to the rule. Perhaps in our relationships we should not be so concerned with making sure we've each paid for dinner an equal amount of times. Or making sure we've each taken the garbage out an equal amount of times. Maybe we should give lovingly, generously and unconditionally because it feels good and because it heals us, it heals our wounds borne of fear, guilt, shame and self-loathing.