In this shiur, Maynard Breslow explores the profound relationship advice embedded in the short third Aliyah of Ki Tavo. The text describes a mutual affirmation: we declare Hashem is our God, and Hashem declares we are His treasured people. However, the order is crucial. The Torah states that we make the first move, affirming our commitment before Hashem reciprocates.

Drawing a powerful parallel to our own relationships and the theme of Elul ("Ani l'dodi v'dodi li" - I am for my beloved, and my beloved is for me), Maynard explains that this sequence is a blueprint for healthy connection. We are taught not to wait for the other person to initiate love, apologies, or appreciation. By taking the first step and proactively giving love, we break the destructive habit of "keeping score" and become conduits for spiritual flow, creating harmony (Tiferet) in our lives.

Key Takeaways

1. Be the First to Affirm Your Love. The Torah purposefully states that we affirm Hashem before He affirms us. This teaches a fundamental lesson for all relationships: don't wait for the other person to make the first move. Take the initiative to express your love, appreciation, and commitment, creating a positive cycle of connection.

2. Stop Keeping Score and Start Giving. Healthy relationships wither when we get caught up in who did what last. The principle of "Ani l'dodi" (I am for my beloved) means our primary focus should be on our own actions of giving. When both people are racing to give love to the other, the relationship flourishes.

3. Initiating Love Creates Spiritual Flow. As in the previous Aliyah, the act of giving makes you a conduit for divine blessing. When you initiate love, you are acting from a place of Chesed (loving-kindness) and bringing it into the world. This creates a state of harmony (Tiferet) and allows more spiritual and material goodness to flow through you and into your life.