This episode was recorded almost a year ago, but the message is just as sharp now: kindness and politeness are not the same thing, and confusing them is costing the people around you.

Drawing on Kim Scott's concept of radical candor, Dan makes the case that real kindness means caring enough about someone to tell them the truth, even when it's uncomfortable.

He gets specific, calling out two people in his life who have modeled this for him, including a moment that happened the very day he recorded this.

Chapters:

00:00 | Dan checks in from Lehi and sets up why this episode couldn't wait00:48 | The real definition of kindness and why it lives closer to radical candor than politeness01:13 | The spinach-in-the-teeth test: what silence actually costs the people you care about02:00 | Chris Adams and what 20-plus years of unfiltered truth from a trusted friend actually looks like02:40 | The three career questions Dan checks every 18 months to know if he's on track03:43 | Chet Coombs, the DataBased marketing struggles, and the audio message that changed things04:58 | What happened when someone cared enough to say "your problems are your fault"05:19 | The choice you'll face today: stay polite or be kind

The next time you're tempted to say nothing, ask yourself if silence is actually the kind move.

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