Although abuse does seem to shape our lives as survivors, Kindra does not wish to be defined by her abuse. She also identifies patterns of generational trauma in her life and in her life choices. 

As survivors we know first hand the revictimization that happens due to unintentional invalidation from family and friends who do not know how to respond to our constant retelling of our stories, our over explaining trauma response from being silenced for so long, and the intentional and vindictive retraumatization from abusers and institutions who only care to protect their reputations.