In this episode of BodyJoy After Office Hours, Melissa sits down with Tigress Lily, certified Erotic Blueprints coach and somatic practitioner, for a wide-ranging conversation on kink, power dynamics, and presence as tools for healing and connection.

Tigress shares her unconventional path from the corporate world into erotic leadership, including how intensive therapy, somatic work, and BDSM helped her work through control, grief, and trauma. Together, they explore how kink can function as nervous-system regulation, why presence—not pain or performance—is often the real medicine, and how Erotic Blueprints can radically transform intimacy inside and outside the bedroom.

The conversation also dives into:

• Using kink consciously and responsibly for healing
• Erotic vs. sexual energy (and why confusing them limits pleasure)
• Submission, responsibility fatigue, and the relief of surrender
• Vetting professionals and understanding when support is needed
• Desire mismatches and Erotic Blueprints in long-term relationships
• How slow, attuned touch can heal where force or speed fails

This episode offers a trauma-informed, deeply human look at eroticism that goes far beyond stereotypes—centering consent, attunement, and care.

Guest Links

Tigress Lily’s Website: https://awakeneddomme.com

Instagram: https://instagram.com/tigress_lily