Labelling things is fine, labelling people it not fine at all. The mainstream mental health space reduces every human to a label, and then judges them based on that. This is at the heart of the dysfunction and dis-ease that we experience in our relationships with others, and especially in our relationship with ourselves.

Labelling gives us comfort because it allows us to preemptively box someone in a way that makes us feel OK with how we treat them. It also gives us permission to decide how much space we should create for them without truly appreciating them, or seeing them for who they really are.

When we see ourselves through the lens of labels, we judge ourselves harshly and in turn, we judge others harshly. This erodes the quality of relationships and it destroys the sweetness of life.

In this episode, I unpack the harms of labelling, I question the validity of mainstream arguments about childhood trauma, mother or father wounds and similar distractions, and I question the source of how we see ourselves.

Do you see yourself innocently making similar mistakes? If so, how many people may you have offended or hurt because you didn’t realise that you saw them through the bullying lens of labelling them?

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