Garth Heckman 

The David Alliance

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August Friday and Saturday 16th 17th End times conference at HillSpring Church sponsored by The David Alliance, 

If you do not lead your expectations then they simply become unrealistic expectations. 

  - You must harness your unrealistic expectations

Here is what happens when you lead your expectations. You see the decision as a chess player  you see it in 3D. You see what you want in the future and how to make decisions and lead yourself there. Now the problem with those around you- be it family, friends, people at work or on social media…  is that — see it as a checkers move. A to B… but that is not leading your expectations… let me give you a real life example. 

*Your Mom tells your daughter to hug uncle Bobby as you are leaving thanksgiving… - she is a 4 year old… that is a checkers move by your mom. You get pressure from other family members at that moment… tell her to hug uncle Bobby… Our family is an affectionate family… teach her to love her family etc.. etc.. and other Checker move thoughts…

A chess move is what do you expect for your daughter 10 years from now, 15 years from now and even 25 years from now… “you tell her you never have to hug a man you don’t feel comfortable with”. Relatives will get mad because they see checkers… you see chess. 

I WANT MY DAUGHTER TO LEARN TO SAY NO TO MEN- ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO PHYSICAL TOUCH. I never want my daughter to feel like she has to do something that she feels uncomfortable with… especially when it is regarding her body. 

You lead best by design… Which means you have it planned out ahead of time. 

Who do you want to marry, where do you want to work, What kind of Dad do you want to be…

What does scripture say? Lead according to it. 

I heard a story of a young man who was working a basic construction job at the age of 21… he tried college but it just wasn’t for him. He liked construction and decided he wanted it as a career. Early on most weeks his co-workers would go out every Friday night after work to the bar… He never did, but after a few months he started asking around “how much money do you spend on average at the bar during the week?”  The average was about $100 a week… that dumbfounded him… but he was wanting to lead his expectations - so on a whim he decided to simply invest $100 a week in a basic mutual fund. He worked construction for 20 plus years and his friends never stopped drinking and he never stopped investing… 

They are all now alcoholics and he is a millionaire.

He learned to lead his expectations… 

A couple quick questions… what do you expect to happen they way you are leading your health? Family? Marriage? Job? Spiritual walk?