Episode 94: Leading with Authenticity and Building Extraordinary Relationships, with Jason Treu [PODCAST]

As a top business and executive coach, Jason Treu has established himself as an expert on building extraordinary relationships. His belief that everything we accomplish is with or through people fuels Jason’s passion to help train others on how to build strong relationships and overcome the things that can hold you back from making those connections. Through his website, BeExtraordinary.TV, Jason offers trainings, coaching sessions, and products to help others understand the things that hold us back in our relationships and how to practice finding a connection the right way.

Speaking your truth with authenticity.

Jason shares why he believes authenticity is the foundation for all extraordinary relationships. He discusses why it’s important to lead with authenticity in order to find common ground with people. Jason offers insight into why he believes this is such a challenge for so many of us and how we can overcome our fear of being vulnerable. The key is a willingness to let people see who you really are, skeletons and all. The value of this, says Jason, is that you are able to connect with someone on the basis of who you really are, which will build a more genuine, meaningful connection.

Leading with giving to make connections.

One way to connect with people is to lead with giving. Jason shares why this is important and how you can start the conversation by asking them questions. When you let them share what matters to them, you are better able to connect. Jason discusses why doing this is what he calls “leading with giving” and why it’s a great way to start a relationships. Jason also talks about his “scorecard” approach and why it’s important to lead with giving, without allowing anyone to take advantage of you.

The power of giving without expectation.

As Jason discusses the relationship scorecard, he shares why giving without expectation can be so powerful. It’s about reaching out and giving of yourself without any expectation of it being reciprocated. When you do this, you’re able to show you care in a true, authentic, and meaningful way, which will have a big impact. By contrast, when you give with expectation, it can lead to resentment, anger, and other negative emotions that can damage your relationship. Jason discusses how this type of giving with expectation can have a negative ripple effect throughout your life.

A willingness to practice.

As Jason and David close out their chat, they discuss Jason’s book, “Social Wealth” and his reasons for sharing this book with the world. They chat about some examples of people who know how to build extraordinary relationships, most notably Richard Branson. Jason also offers insight into his belief that you must practice building and engaging in extraordinary relationships in order to make these skills a habit. They go over some common mistakes people make in relationships and how to avoid them in order to stay on the path towards extraordinary relationships.

Outline of this great episode

[1:25] David’s introduction and welcome to you and his guest, Jason Treu.

[1:59] What makes extraordinary relationships?

[2:46] Why is the idea of authenticity such a challenge?

[4:22] How did you realize you wanted to help people build extraordinary relationships?

[7:01] The role that truth plays in these extraordinary relationships.

[9:02] Why Jason leads with letting people ask questions.

[10:28] The scorecard philosophy.

[12:46] Leading with giving.

[17:05] The concept of expectation.

[19:36] The difference in life when you do things without expectation.

[21:19] Jason’s book, “Social Wealth”.

[23:56] People Jason looks to as examples of extraordinary relationships.