In this episode, Eddy chats with Nathan Meola, a life coach who is focused on helping people lose weight through a holistic approach. Nathan shares how he struggled with his own weight issues and what ultimately led him to having a healthier body. Listen in to know more about Nathan’s journey.

 

Time Stamped Show Notes:

• 00:39 – Eddy welcomes Nathan to the show
• 01:37 – Nathan and Eddy met at the Date with Destiny event
• • Nathan says the event is intense
  • Eddy says his biggest take away is everyone has shared thoughts
• 03:44 – Nathan shares how he works with groups of people at once
• • Everyone has the same thoughts, but no one talks about it
• 04:55 – At the Date with Destiny, you learn that everyone is connected and the same
• 05:07 – Nathan talks about his Date with Destiny experience
• • His perception of love has changed
  • Gratitude and love points to the connectedness of everything
• 08:12 – Gratitude used to be just a word for Nathan
• • Nathan was overwhelmed when he experienced real gratitude
  • He felt grateful for all the people who has helped him
  • Nathan has not expressed his gratitude to his mentors in the past
  • It was all interconnected with energy and money
• 12:40 – Nathan spent six hours on the phone and thanked the people who has helped him
• 13:36 – Nathan talks about forgiveness
• • Forgiveness is never easy
  • It means accepting, acknowledging and releasing the negative energy
• 15:46 – For Eddy, it is about letting go of arguments and not holding on to resentments
• • “Its up to me to let go”
• 16:55 – Nathan says he is on a program
• • The first week is about affect to cause
  • It is about realizing that we are the cause
  • “I am the one that put me here”
• 19:57 – Weight loss is never the issue
• • Whatever is going in internally, the external body will show it
• 21:33 – Nathan used to be 250 kilos
• • He underwent surgery and lost 50-60 kilos
  • By 6 months, he began to eat more again and the band malfunctioned
  • Nathan didn’t want to tell people he had surgery and it created the feeling of shame in him
• 25:08 – Surgery was an external solution to obesity
• 26:29 – Nathan does not regret doing the surgery as it has become part of what he is doing now
• 28:22 – Nathan applied in The Biggest Loser
• • He was able to pass until the last part of the audition process
  • He put on weight during the audition period
  • He was devastated when he didn’t get on the show and blamed everyone but himself
  • Nathan went on a 5-year downward spiral
• 34:22 – Eating was the strategy Nathan used to hide negative emotions
• 35:50 – Nathan started to feel sick
• • He was travelling when his legs felt numb and he couldn’t stand
  • He lost his job and his family were having arguments about him
  • The only time he left the house was to get pain killers
• 39:31 – For three months, Nathan was just eating, sleeping and getting on pain killers and weed
• 41:33 – Nathan made the decision he was going to eat himself to death
• 43:31 – A neurosurgeon told Nathan the solution to his back problem was to fuse his spine
• • Nathan felt it was what he needed to do
  • He must lose 15 kilos before he can undergo the surgery
  • Nathan realized it was his decisions that was causing pain to his family
• 48:39 – Nathan went on a weight loss retreat in 2010
• 49:09 – You can physically affect your body, but you also have to change your beliefs
• • You will always be fighting against your body if you do not upgrade your identity
  • Do not focus on losing weight, focus on a shift in mindset
• 52:10 – Losing physical weight and having people validate it is a distraction
• 54:17 – Women feel there is more pressure for them to lose weight
• • We inform society more than society informs us
• 56:14 – The goal should be how you want to feel not what you want to look like
• 57:15 – Eddy says he always says no to everything when he had weight issues
• • Know what always saying “no” means
• 58:55 – The body and the heart knows when you need to change
• 59:36 – Nathan feels what happened to him was bound to happen, he just had to let go
• 1:00:56 – When Nathan lost the 15 kilos, he didn’t get the surgery anymore
• 1:01:54 – Eddy shares his thoughts on the health system
• • There are people still waiting on what their diagnosis is
  • People are waiting for doctors to tell them what is wrong with them
• 1:04:13 – What you are feeling is a collection of symptoms that has accumulated in your life
• 1:05:46 – You are on a quest to find a disease that will make you change
• 1:06:17 – There are two reactions when you are told you only have three months to live
• 1:07:52 – You have to know what your purpose is on earth
• • Your weight and health depends on your vision of your purpose
  • Allow your vision to move you forward
• 1:10:48 – Losing weight is about falling in love with food
• • It is a journey to find a new relationship with food
  • Breaking out from a bad relationship takes a lot of work
• 1:15:21 – Nathan used to think he was not worthy to be in a relationship with someone
• 1:16:37 – Falling in love with food means finding a good relationship with it
• 1:17:19 – Everything is about energy and the food you eat affects your energy
• 1:18:03 – Learning to love food and how it affects you is a learning process
• 1:19:25 – Weight is used as a mask
• 1:21:10 – Nathan talks about the changes he has gone through
• • From feeling fearful to going towards fear
  • Darkness is inevitable, but you have the strength to face it
  • You have control over pain and darkness if you do not suppress it
• 1:25:07 – Nathan felt he would not experience the world
• 1:26:22 – Being big is difficult when you want to travel
• 1:28:54 – The concept of failure has also shifted for Nathan
• 1:30:36 – It is not about the diet
• 1:31:24 – Contact Eddy at Peeling It Back or Facebook and Instagram

 

Resources Mentioned:

• Date with Destiny – Tony Robbin’s event where Nathan and Eddy met
• Nathan Meola – Nathan’s website