I share how our early Shabbos with kids felt chaotic and how shifting to progress over perfection brought calm and joy. Four simple goals guide a kinder home: trust yourself, involve your kids, celebrate wins, and protect a small ritual for mom.

• understanding the learning curve and dropping perfection
• moving from chaos to 60–70 percent better
• four goals for calmer Shabbos and resilient kids
• planning with children and solution-focused language
• daily question of what went right today
• honoring the role of mothers and the home
• a two to five minute mom-first ritual each week
• weekly action step to reinforce new habits

Tell yourself you're a good mother and then do something special for yourself, this Shabbos