This is the hard truth about how your healing journey doesn't just change your life - it rewrites your family's entire story. The moment when you realize that the validation-seeking patterns causing you pain right now are the same ones you might be unconsciously teaching the next generation.

Here's what's really happening with intergenerational people pleasing:

• People pleasing is learned behavior - through modeling (watching parents handle conflict), direct teaching ("don't make waves," "what will people think?"), and emotional reinforcement (conditional love based on good behavior)
• Children absorb relationship templates from what they observe, creating emotional inheritance that intensifies with each generation
• Identity formation struggles when kids are constantly told to put others first instead of developing a strong sense of self
• Ineffective decision-making patterns where major life choices get deferred to others instead of considering your own needs
• The ripple effect: how your healing work impacts not just you but generations to come
• Practical strategies: modeling healthy boundaries, validating authentic expression even when inconvenient, normalizing disagreement, and making repair visible
• The beautiful truth that when you break these patterns, you create a completely different legacy

From buying my dog a $150 ice blanket while I don't have one (learned from watching my mom always put our needs first) to recognizing how cultural messages like "quieter equals prettier" shaped generations of women, this episode exposes how family patterns repeat until someone decides to break the cycle.

Because here's what I know: you can't model healthy behavior without embodying it yourself. But when you do the inner work to heal your own relationship with validation, the ramifications are wonderful and lasting.

The work you're doing today doesn't just benefit you - it benefits the children you may have, their children, and so many generations to come.

🎧 Related Episode: Embracing Disapproval - This is the gentle guide for when you've decided to stop people pleasing but that uncomfortable feeling has you frozen.

Subscribe. Share. Remember that breaking generational patterns starts with your own healing.

Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨

Join the conversation! What people pleasing patterns do you see in your family across generations? DM me your reflections on Instagram @YourCoachMari

💬 LET'S CONNECT:

My Insta

My TikTok

Growing with Sol Podcast

Buy Me a Cafecito

Send in questions: [email protected]

We might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.

(Bookshop affiliate)

🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER

→ Schedule your discovery call

→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

→ The Transformation Program

→ The Evolution Program